I want to move

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We are about 8mo into the cosmetic repair of about a 6yr multiple approach leak of a combined issue of a roof leak and house paint. I know, ITS INSANE TO WRITE - the inspector never dinged the issue at the inspection, and the previous owner hid soooo much - he should never own a home. Something like this should *NEVER* take this long to do. The impact of living here has left me now in a state of an emotional breakdown of some kind. Due to this seemingly small but impactful home renovation which has disrupted my entire master bedroom and my personal space of it (bedroom, bathroom and closet). When reaching out to handymen, one handyman stopped showing up after inconsistently showing up for a month...so now I have called several handymen to see if they can quote - and even though I work in the industry as well and just don't have the time currently...they all talk "at" me as if I don't understand things...which not only is insulting enough but also attempt to force work in their quotes and attempt to charge crazy stupid prices per hour for not even using a professional quote, they use text messages wtf 0.o

DH has serious PDA - which I never understood before. I feel like we committed to a home which needs maintenance and care, which I have outsourced everything over the years of living here but now this repair is doing a number on me emotionally - crying in waves, in a panic of some sort too which I don't seem to be aware of. For DH, I never saw PDA which seems to sprout the most when he has work obligations. When he has a serious amount of time off to decompress he will lean into a job until its complete - pushing everyone out of the way.

I'm tired, I feel like I'm in a personal mental hell and my happiness being slowly chipped away, Im starting to lose trust.
I'm handling 99% of the repairs and while Im doing it in "chunks," it doesn't feel satisfying I'm not sure why, and DH is emotionally unavailable now due to the stress. I'm ready to just finish this, sell it and move into a 3 bedroom 1-story maybe rental apt to heal from this insanity.

Sorry to hear that you are going through this.
I think what you propose is common these days.
Folks will sell property "as is" and let a house flipper fix it up.
My next door neighbor's family is in the contracting business--maybe the father?
He bought the house, let the former owners live in for a two years according to the tax records, and then spent a few months bringing in workers to fix it up before finally moving in.