Emotional Damage/Brain

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I was wondering is it normal for Aspergers to get emotional unstable, depressed and withdrawn. I worry I might have ''deeper brain issues'' I got into an argument with a female friend via text, said I was ''obsessive'' or emotional issues. I am far from perfect, but have issues with the ''NT World'' can't relate to my family, want solitude, feel stress with relationships, and financial. I burn out easily or can't take on a lot at once. I don't know how people in my family can do all of ''with ease'', they found relationships, full time jobs and don't get angry quickly. I know what's going on just feel ''disconnected'' worried about my dog, and personal life. I don't know if I was ''weakened'' more, as I read Covid can affect the brain or neurological, or I am just ''getting older'' at 40. I consider myself ''very intelligent'' but with others I am ''lost''

Sometimes it helps to take small steps. I would go to a party about 10-15 minutes early and help the hosts set up. As the other guests arrived, I would visit a few minutes with several after about 15 minutes I would leave. For me the void in conversations was difficult and not wanting to intrude on the conversations of others was a barrier.

Over time I began to consider that I could identify other "wall flowers" and strike up a conversation with someone else to help them. As my focus shifted away from myself, I found I could make more social progress.

I do not see Aspergers as a defect. Instead I see it as a neurological variant that has faster, more complex, or more sensitive neurology. This results in an avalanche of sensory and cognitive processing demands that NTs do not have to deal with.

I wonder if you have a history of trauma, because that can deeply affect the way we deal with things in every day life.
Also if you regularly feel lost, you might find a therapist to help you sort things out. I got therapy to get communication tools I did not learn growing up in an unhealthy family. I learned how to interact in healthy ways with others and it saved my life and my sanity. Understanding my diagnosis and my neurology did not come until 40 years later, but it has been a huge relief to have that self understanding and get answers to so many "whys" of the past. You are among others who understand

People on the autism spectrum seem to become drained by different things than neurotypical people, and also seem to charge up their batteries by different things. I usually hear that social obligations or emotions drain autists the most, and that they need recovery time with their special interest or in a stimming activity. The stimming activity for adults may be something that isn't overtly stimming- such as going for a walk/long drive, having a snack or a cigarette, or a performing a little daily routine.

When you're talking to a neurotypical person, they are part of the majority group and you as an autist are usually part of a minority, so keep in mind that something you are saying or doing may in fact be abnormal for a person like them, when it would not be for a person like you.

For example, it would be weird if I, a woman, stood up to pee. It's not weird when my husband, a man, does it.