Social Faux Pas and growing up.

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I'm mulling over the journey through childhood and adolescence with ASD. Aspies have to learn some harsh social lessons during the school years. Once a social mistake has been made, that's IT for some people. No second chances. You'd be pretty much labelled as an outcast in THAT particular environment. Can anyone share any stories of how helpful it has been to change schools, change environments for you?
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I find that once people discover that you don't understand when people are teasing you/taking the piss out of you they will find this hilarious and want to keep doing it again and again.

Sadly neither of the two colleges I went to after school helped at all. I have just started an Open University degree and thoroughly recommend distance learning!! !! !! !! !

Absolutely...that was one of the things that made my childhood quite hellish.

I absolutely believe that we have to keep changing environments as we learn from our social mistakes. It's hell to try to stay and improve the relationship. The kind of social mistakes we aspies make are "that's it" for too many people in a group. This is from my experience. I've tried and tried to patch things up and it never, ever worked. We deserve a fresh start. We're not to blame for our social mistakes. It'll always be better at the next place, because we learn along the way.

indeed, i screwed upo plenty, even when I moved to a new town, I quickly scrwed up ppls preceptions of me in my neghboorhood, school, but ohhh well, somtimes u cant start fresh, u just gotta screw up and spend years learneing and making new mistakes.

I find if u r stuck for many years, as u get older some school kids that hated ya r more tolerant, as both u and them get older.

Here is one of 1,000,000 errors I made, it took place in a barber shop. After getting ym hair cut it was my fathers turn, the lady did us both, while she was working and my father was in the chair i started talking . I said first that the lady had alot of makeup on! The I jokingly said I wanted to take her money (she had alot of tip money on the counter). I was about 9 years old and wanted to be friendly, so i just said what was on my mind, not understanding at the time this was not how you did it, and that I was being rude and insulting her. My father scolded me, and was so ashaimed we never went back their .