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17 Sep 2007, 3:39 am

Is there anyone who doesn't like them?


I don't like them because they are too hard and it feels like weight is being pressed down on me and it also feels I am carrying something heavy. Is this a sensory issue?



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17 Sep 2007, 4:16 am

I don't like them at all. They do not feel good, they rather hurt. I don't know if it's a sensory issue or not, but I would guess it could be. I dislike hugs as well. Unwelcome come on's are just not welcome at all. In certian cases's there are exceptions and I can fake a hug, pretty well. But a massage, not comfortable at all. On the other hand I can give a good one, but that's me touching another, not the other way around.


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17 Sep 2007, 4:45 am

I wouldn't know....because I've actually never gotten a real human massage. I did try one of those massage chairs at the mall though....verrrrry uncomfortable.



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17 Sep 2007, 4:47 am

I love them...soft and sweet or tough and thorough. But then, I do see to enjoy a bit of pain now and then.



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17 Sep 2007, 5:28 am

I don't have a problem with them, but usually people don't know how to give them and squeeze too hard and whatnot.



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17 Sep 2007, 6:32 am

Up to age 45, every person who gave me a massage commented on how much tightness and tension was in my back and shoulders, and I usually had to ask them to ease up and use light strokes and stay away from the spine. People who would occasionally slap me on the back or shoulders would be surprised at how much I would jump, and I sometimes had to restrain myself from hitting them back or yelling.

At 45, my shoulder started to lock up, and I learned about myofascial therapy, a type of do-it-yourself massage based on the idea that knots or 'trigger points' can develop, and they can cause all kinds of problems. I not only restored normal function to my shoulder, but also have also reduce much of the constant tension in the back and neck.

Trigger points develop when a muscle fiber and the sheath around the fiber get glitched. These knots become tender at the glitch, and can also referred pain to nearby areas, some points can even cause anxiety, muscle weakness, shallow breathing, or heart arrhythmias (mostly in certain muscles around the sternum or neck). Pressing on trigger points not only causes intense pain locally, but it usually reproduces or aggravates the other symptoms. And massaging them myself improves things.

When one muscle glitches up, other muscles take up the load. The muscle in pain works less, and the body shifts the work to nearby muscles to protect the place of pain or discomfort. And soon those muscles that are working more than they were designed to get stiff, maybe even glitching up into knots themselves. Which can create syndromes of pain and stiffness.



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17 Sep 2007, 7:01 am

am like hard pressure,and have had shoulder/neck massage before by someone am used to,it feels very nice.



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17 Sep 2007, 7:13 am

Both my daughter (AS) and I crave deep pressure as a part of our sensory needs:)

Not so much me, but my daughter needs weighted items, people lying on her, pressure on shoulders, deep massages, etc as a way of calming. I just need deep pressure massage. My partner arranged for a massage for my b-day and that poor girl! When her touch was anything shy of HARD, I squirmed! We even discussed how she would leave with sore hands from the pressure I needed... :oops:

That said, we are also the kind of people that hate the feeling of tags, loose threads, etc and have a ridiculous need to touch EVERYTHING and ANYTHING we walk past :)


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17 Sep 2007, 11:33 am

I have A masseuse friend who I get one from occasionally and will get one at a local body care shop- no Asian specials for me please. (I'm too self conscious, why get stressed out if I cant handle it?) My masseuse friends have approved of my skills working deep tissue around the shoulder/neck/back.
I have given massages as a pseudo-sexual contact, preferring the less stressful action of giving a massage rather than risk intimacy.
Kind of masochistic, now that I think of it, I guess it's easier to settle for some proscribed contact rather than the anxiety of intimacy.
I have a Sharper Image massage chair, it feels great once I've allowed my muscles to relax. 2 15 minutes sessions can nearly put me to sleep.
I have always preferred the pressure of a quilt over a light blanket too.



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17 Sep 2007, 12:39 pm

I hate massage chairs but I love massages.
Its the only real physical things that I love, and that includes some types of sex.


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17 Sep 2007, 1:20 pm

ive never had one, and the thought of someone touching me all over the place is a little unnerving :?



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17 Sep 2007, 1:20 pm

people give all kinds of diff massages......

i like em harder.... though mixing in some of the lighter/tickling things is nice.... i really like being worked over. i actually have quite dense muscle in many areas and it takes a lot of pressure to relieve it....


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17 Sep 2007, 3:54 pm

I love massages, as long as the pressure is just right. Kneading too hard in certain areas can be incredibly painful as I learnt with my ex and some aspies do have issues with knowing the right amount of pressure to apply. It is a delicate balance and I only like my back being massaged, nowhere else.



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06 Oct 2007, 6:34 pm

liberty wrote:
I love them...soft and sweet or tough and thorough. But then, I do see to enjoy a bit of pain now and then.


:o wow...

(yeah thats not a turn on) :mrgreen: :lol: :oops:



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06 Oct 2007, 7:06 pm

I had one; I hated it. Too much pressure on an area that was all ready sore. Of course, I couldn't see the person (nor did I trust said person; I trust so few people... one, really), which was unnerving, so that alone would have made it icky to me. But the touch was much too hard for me; I didn't like it at all. If I need the muscles worked on, I'll go in for a chiropractor appointment.

That being said, my mother used to stroke my back to get me to calm down, and I didn't mind that at all. Of course, the pressure was significantly less as well.


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06 Oct 2007, 8:51 pm

I looooove massages. I have scoliosis and a bad shoulder, so a great back/neck rub is always welcome. It's probably the only kind of touch that never bothers me. But I really like pressure and weight on me; if it's not too warm I'll sleep with pillows on top of me sometimes, or with one of my cats lying on me. I really don't like giving anyone but my fiance massages though; I'm probably even more uncomfortable with touching other people than with being touched.