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theoddone
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20 Jul 2012, 7:57 pm

It has been a desire I've had for years now is to join a community of aspies/auties and make friends with them because I am an aspie also and making friends in school (I'm going to be a junior in highschool this year) is pretty hit and miss since majority of people at my school are NT and aspies and auties are exetremely rare in my school, I only have three friends who are an aspie/autie, and I want to make more aspie/autie friends because I feel more understanding from them than I do NTs, and I feel like I'm able to trust aspies/auties more than NTs as well. Are there any aspies/auties who feel the same?



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20 Jul 2012, 9:32 pm

You are very lucky to already have a few spectrum friends, at your age. I have only very recently (i.e. the other day) knowingly met another aspie. And yes, I feel I can trust them more, or at least I am more comfortable around them. If only we could let ourselves be known to others of our kind, more easily. Like a secret handshake or something.

Have you tried to find a local support group? That's probably a good place to look.



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20 Jul 2012, 9:33 pm

The only other AS person I know is the biggest jerk god ever made on an off day. You got lucky.


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20 Jul 2012, 10:02 pm

yellowtamarin wrote:
You are very lucky to already have a few spectrum friends, at your age. I have only very recently (i.e. the other day) knowingly met another aspie. And yes, I feel I can trust them more, or at least I am more comfortable around them. If only we could let ourselves be known to others of our kind, more easily. Like a secret handshake or something.

Have you tried to find a local support group? That's probably a good place to look.


I've been thinking for a while that a secret wave would be cool. I was thinking a two fingered wave with thumb out, making a sort of funky W might be easy. And it'd be so subtle, who would even notice if they weren't in on it? I've tested it at work, and no one seems to perceive it as being outside of a standard "hi" wave.


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20 Jul 2012, 10:39 pm

vanhalenkurtz wrote:
The only other AS person I know is the biggest jerk god ever made on an off day. You got lucky.


This is a fantastic reply. Thanks. :)



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20 Jul 2012, 10:45 pm

Can you imagine being the only aspie is a HS of 4000 kids? That was me. Talk about alone! There were a handful of mentally ret*d & autistic kids but they were basically segregated from the general populace. If there were other aspies I wouldn't have known about it because I was in my own protective world away from the thugs and criminals-in-training.


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