Having troubles going out and doing stuff

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Does anyone else ever experiance this:


I have troubles getting out of the house to do fun things and I even have troubles to get myself to shop for what I need like moe wipes and shampoo, etc. I am always with my routines, computer and TV so I find it real hard to do something else. For me to do something, I have to plan it ahead of time and it has to be in stone before I do it. I can't just spontaniously go out and do something. My self help skills have seem to gotten bad. I don't clean much because all I am doing is computer and TV so I don't have time to clean or do chores. I have to make myself do them or when I have nothing else to do because I have gotten tired of the computer and TV so therefore I am able to do what needs to be done. Luckily I live with my aunt and uncle so cleaning isn't an issue because my aunt is always cleaning and she always does the laundry so I have nothing to worry about. They always keep the house clean and I make sure I pick up after myself and my mess stays in my room but I tend to forget to let their dog out before I go and sometimes I am so focused on leaving for work, I forget to let her back in, same as when I leave the house to do an erran like running to the store to get something, I forget I have their dog outside in the backyard.

I don't really have those kinds of problems.

Tim

I am the same way. I love doing PLANNED fun stuff, but the question of "Should I go out right now?" never crosses my mind. When people call to hang out, I have had to sort of force myself to say yes no matter what, otherwise I'd never get out.

I need someone with me to be spontanious. They are like my guide for me to be sponatanious. They do the planning and they take me there and I don't mind it. That's when I am flexible.

i have a problem of just going out and doing things...not to mention what to do. the most that i like to do elsewhere is going to the library, or going to the theater (at rare occasions). and besides that i don't go out just to go, i have to have a purpouse to go out. like....going to the librabry to download something, or check out a movie or a book. or go to the theater to see a movie i really want to see, or to walmart to get something, for either me or one of my family members....but besides that...i don't get out (with the exception of school) and i don't even really "hang out" with anyone...
sure i get lonely....but most of the times other people are just too busy.....so...why bother?

If i want 2 do somethin like goin out somewhere den i need 2 plan it a wk before so dat i can adjust a routine 2 it as it works best 4 me cos i travel quite a bit n if i do it straight away den im pretty much f****d really.

I am so entrenched in my routine that it is everything. Cleaning, computer, exercise and all of that stuff are all part of my routine. Adding new stuff is the hardest thing, or if outside influences effect my ability to do my routine at the normal time. But so far just about everything that I need to do to stay healthy and clean are all part of my routine so I don't think it is a bad thing.

If we DIDN'T have such problems, we would be better socially, and vice versa, huh?

I've been struggling with this ever since I started living alone. I just feel very lazy a lot of the time like I don't want to do anything. It isn't a pleasent lazy feeling either because I get depressed about stuff I need to do but haven't done. I also get so tired that I wake up after noon on weekends and it sucks because the days is almost gone by the time I wake up.

of course. i only go into town once a month to cash a check, maybe i'll mob up the rock store and sportscard shop aswell. and as always, cold stone isnt outta the question

I find that i do have those sort of problems.

Getting married has helped me get out more.

To have fun though, I need to know what we are doing ahead of time. Or, at least, what our options are when were out. To just wing it causes too much stress.

I suggest to plan ahead. Set time limits or allow more time. If your out longer than you expect then you will get more stressed the next time.

Try to forget the things going on at home. If your focus is somewhere other than your attempt to have fun, you will not have fun.

Go with people who your comfortable with. If you go with people you know you have to be fake with will only be a detriment.

If you go alone, do things that you can have fun doing yourself. Going to social establishments will not be fun alone. Unless, of course, your NT.

Social anxiety hinders my fun more than anything. If this is your problem, try mild anti-anxiety meds such as Buspar. But beware of side effects.

If all of this seems like too much. I've been there.

I cannot go out spontaneously unless it's going shopping, or lately I've been doing early morning walking to try and get healthy. I just wonder what I would do. I hate it when people ask me to come out out of the blue, I usually suspect they're up to something I'm not sure why they would be, but the lack of preplanning seems suspicious to me. The other day some guys I kind of know came around and knocked on my door and said they were going down my street visiting some other people and drinking at the end, and asked (tried jokingly ordering) me to go with them, but I just couldn't and had to make up excuses, because I didn't have it preplanned. The next day they spent from the morning until the afternoon convincing me to go out that night, which I did, and it was fine. Though I spent most of the night staring over peoples shoulders and buying more drinks so I would have something to do with my hands.