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You don't understand someone.
Your Probem. 81%  81%  [ 13 ]
Other's Problem. 19%  19%  [ 3 ]
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29 Sep 2007, 12:16 pm

Basic question, if someone doesn't understand you who do you place the misunderstanding on.

I often go for a 3rd option, that no one is wrong. But right in a conversation, I am quick to assume that I am the one at fault.


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29 Sep 2007, 12:31 pm

Same here. I'm always apologizing for not making sense to others, or for them misinterpreting what I said.


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29 Sep 2007, 3:17 pm

I have to admit that I would place the blame on the other person. If we are unaware of our social miscues, then how can we blame ourselves? I think NT's have to learn how to be a little more empathetic and understanding, because we Apies just aren't always that aware ourselves. This is not to say that we Aspies shouldn't work on our social skills, but I think NT's could really be better when it comes to helping us out a little.


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