Can Aspies Be A Part of the "In-Crowd"

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Do you think an Aspie can be accepted by the "in-crowd" or is that a contradiction in terms?

Looking at this post as I am revising this, I am not really sure what the in-crowd is. I think it refers to the "beautiful people" or the ones that everybody look up to.

I definitely think that there are times when an aspie can be part of the "in" crowd, by virtue of their ability to be truly individual and unique. This may happen during high school or college, when individualism is just beginning to be "valued". Think about any guys who are in rock bands -- a good chunk of them are pretty weird, very interesting, and at that point people seem to be drawn to them either because of their musical skills and/or their weirdness.

The difference here is that the person who possibly could be part of the "in" crowd cannot be TOO outrageous. They can't be too outside of the norm. It also helps for them to be funny. Aspie humor can be awesome, and so unbelievably unique that other people can barely keep up with them. That's why they are so well-liked -- NT's, the good and aware ones anyway, know that they can't even compete with a truly funny Aspie.

Kris

Case in point -- the reason Michaelangelo was Pope Julius II's favorite contractor for stuff like the Sistine Chapel, the dome of St. Peters, his tomb, etc. is because Michelangelo's case of aspergers (which historians think he had) made him uniquely trustable. The pope knew that Michaelangelo could be trusted and would not mislead him -- a good thing when you consider that the projects he was working on were for their time major public works and infrastructure projects costing the equivalent of the high millions to billions of dollars today.

yes, before my father died I was really into clothes and I was little but not petite so clothes didn't look lolitaish on me so I had no problem meeting people and talking to them and nobody minded what came out of my mouth and laughed even when I wasn't trying to be funny. Then I had to submerge myself in customer service where people take their insecurities out on you.

I think Bar Rafaeli is an aspie and how great is it that Leonardo DiCaprio dates her after Gisele Bundchen who makes me think about Mengele. AND Bar doesn't look like she has had work done but Gisele NEEDED to shave her nose down in order to be employable. HA!

Here is a VERY VERY aspie honesty for its own sake interview lol:

http://www.ynetnews.com/articles/0,7340 ... 02,00.html

Hmmm well i guess for my odd behaviors and sense of humor I get a chance to experience popularity (not to gloat or anythinggg)

I think people are just more curious on what the weird kid will do next thoughh

(lawllll or maybe its just my muttonchops )

Sure they can. I was a bouncer for 4 years. I was not only in the 'in' crowd, I was the alpha male.

Once you are the alpha male you can do just about whatever you want. Anyone that doesnt like it has to buck social order and challenge you.

In high school I occasionally got to be part of a few groups.... usually as the odd sidekick. Like Jughead to the Archie gang. Good enough to have around for the occasional laugh, break up the monotony.... but never good enough to date!


Still, high school was a much better experience than Jr. High! In that level, conformance is mandatory!

I am the in-crowd. You people are not.

I think in high school I did take a few opertunities to be in the in crowd, but never really felt a serious part of it. I was uneque, but yet dressed like everyone else. I was myself but yet acted in a way that would get me acceptance. My senior year of high school was the most popular I ever was, I could go in and out of the in crowds with few difficulties, tho if I continued to hang with them I would be unhappy with who I would become.

I never was part of an "in-crowd," and never wanted to be. However, I did have some abilities, such as good grades, that gave me standing with the teachers and the better students.

I think people can find respect and belonging with their peers through excellence in an activity. Roger Bannister found it through running; I found it because of my love of cats.

To be honest, I've never wanted to be a part of this so-called "in crowd". All I see in it is a bunch of slavering chavs. Ugh! In-crowds, cliques and the like just annoy me.

I'm in total agreement, despite being occasionally accepted by some of the less-popular cliques.

Mind you, if I didn't have SOME acceptance and friendship, I'd have died of suicide for sure. I had terrible depression even then.

Sure. If they really wanted to I'm sure they could learn and coach themselves to be.

Either highly egotistical you are or just another of many trolls that come here with no life.

And yes I think that at times, sometimes if you are lucky enough, sometimes one can find themselves part of the "in-crowd", just depends on what you term the "in-crowd" as being.

...We are leaders, not followers. We are the future. Be your unaffected self and your in-crowd will form around you.

I am definitely not a "hipster"...but i am at least somewhat recognised in my city's underground arts/music scene...because I have been involved in it for so many years and help run a venue and whatnot....I don't know if that would make me sort of any "in" crowd...but uh...that is the closest equivocal thing I can think of.