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ut you had AS?


My mother did... oh, did she ever! She's only now jsut coming around, treating me more the way she used to before she heard of this AS stuff, realizing that I'm still the same person I was before I was diagnosed. My father never did before, but as he and I got older, he's done it a little, and thought of AS a little, or tried not to think about it... he tried to hide it... or maybe he just aseemed that way because he was afraid I'd think he was thuinking about that stupid thing and trying to hide it... we both have that kind of social anxiety.

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Just my family.

My mother has. I think she's written off everything I've done to "hurt her" as being due to my inability to censor what I say sometimes. Ive told her off more than once. She's a terrible mother and an even worse grandma and I have no use for her. She's been ultra friendly and supportive lately-calling me all the time. It's getting annoying, but she's trying to be nice, so I let it be, especially since she suffers from clinical depression and I do still care about her. She's done way too much to screw me over in life and I will not forgive her or give her another chance. I closed that door a few years ago and I've never been more at peace with myself. She has Munchausen's by proxy and probably borderline personality disorder- she's like Dr. Jekyl and Ms. Hyde. Dr Jekyl to the outside world and Ms. Hyde to her family. Her friends, colleagues, boss, etc would be shocked if I told them about her behavior toward her children and my father. I know she's sick, so I just write it off and let it be, but I also protect myself and my kids from her craziness.

You are wise to keep that distance from your mother. It took me years to learn how to do that.

Don't worry too much Jennyfoo...it it weren't for AS I am sure she would find another excuse to avoid facing herself...I know because I have a mother JUST like her.

A simpler, more obvious, example is an idiot who tries to promote the association between alexithymia and AS all over the web so he can kid himself that someone with AS only rejected him because she could not recognise her own real feelings...

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I didn't have many relationshis. Always been a loner. No relatives anymore. But yes, all the few people who knew me terminated any dialogue. Which I found understandable and don't regret much.

Only my mom did to my advantage. Now I don't even have to do chores and I'm not nearly as forced with school stuff as I used to be. In fact, when I was going full-day last year, if I didn't feel like going to school, she'd write me a sick note! Other than that, nothing else changed one bit.

I told only a very few amount of ppl in my life and non treated me any different cause they eather did not beleive me or thought i was messed up to begin with anyways...

Yes unfortunately. Especially if I ever did something they didn't like or out argue them, certain people would say something like "thats just aspergers syndrome" and smile and walk away completely dismissing me. 90% of the time I would be pointing out some bs thing they were spewing, or Zeus forbid call them out on asinine behavior. It was definitely easier to put certain flaky family members in their place before they could use that as a last resort. It makes me absolutely furious when people do that.

my NT mother tried the same abuse on her younger siblings when she was a tween that she ended up pulling hardcore with me so I know aspieness didnt have anything to do with it. She likes to do it to kids who are not outsiders, the younger the better and less able to defend or tattle. One of her characteristics is her desire to remain unexposed and she can click off the abuse the minute a third party is possibly within earshot and she is also extremely good at sophistry but she reserves her true verbal prowess for that so that her everyday conversation offers no prior hints to raise the suspicions of outsiders. "Leave her to Heaven" is the movie title that reminds me of her.

Only my Family knows. So Nope. well, I did tell this girl who was my friend. and he conveniently forgot. When I mentioned it again, because of a school i was going to, she started treating me like I was a child. she calimed she'd never been told, and now never really contacts me.

Mostly everyone treats me differently in a positive sense. Instead of getting pissed they understand now why things are the way they are. And instead of getting angry, they either simply make me aware of it that I'm doing something that bothers them or that I'm rambling on or they don't mind and just ignore it.

I said mostly because currently, one of my sisters, who in the past could barely bother to speak to me or answer me when I asked something, now ignores me even more and treats me like a ret*d, giving half assed answers to valid questions. I don't really mind and just ignore it, but when that type of behavior influences or impacts others (like my parents who I live with) it does bother me.

usually affter i tell em they tread me like i would be todler

No one, absolutely no one is capable to “wear our cloths”; not even psychologists, psychiatrists, neurologists can really understand what our life experience is, or has been. The only ones who can understand are those who went through the suffering, the disabilities, the frustration which keeps us apart. People who know they are going to die for a fatal illness may find assistance from friends and relatives, even a bit of understanding. But we who are “in the spectrum” will never, never find real comprehension. In this we are the real damned of the planet. Not the only ones, but certainly the empty space which surrounds us will never be filled.