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You don't need to prove your disability on here. You have to be an ass to not believe it. Not everyone can prove their disabilities because they don't either have their papers or a camera. I don't have my papers so therefore I wouldn't be able to prove mine. My parents have them and I don't have any in my adulthood.


You see now how annoying it is when you get doubt when you are telling the truth?

Yes I know there are people who lie on the inetrnet but there is no proof that they are so I keep it to myself because what if they were telling the truth and I accuse them of lying? Then I'm an as*hole. I have been called a liar myself so I know how it feels to be called a liar when I am actually telling the truth so I make sure I don't do that to others.

thats fair likedcalico. maybe i have alot more to learn, however im not going to sit back and have some armchair nowitall get away with making me feel like crap because her life sucks. go back and read what she wrote, she attacked me for stating how much i think you need to make to live comfortably in this town.. She also assumed i can dig holes for a living and bag grocheries. without even meeting me, or knowing what im capable of workwise. i simply turned her logic of thinking around on her. kindof like holding up a mirror to her face so she can get a good look at herself.

Yea. What's up with her examples? Reich was a total loon and not even autistic IMO.

Also, I don't think Einstein was ever considered a hard worker by people who knew him well. He dropped out of high school and was considered "lazy" by his teachers. He was largely dependent on his wife for a lot of things throughout his life. He barely knew or cared how to dress himself. He was also very stubborn and disregarded authority constantly. He only became successful because he was recognized and respected for his intellectual ability at a young age by people in academia. If not for that exposure he would have had a very hard life trying to hold down a normal job. Smarts alone doesn’t get you far in normal NT society.

Yes I saw what she wrote and I thought it was great you were getting a taste of your own medicine. You have pulled that kind of stunt on other people and to me on intensity. The you doubting other people what they say about themselves and then she did the same to you. I thought maybe you would learn from it and maybe change by stop accusing people of lying about themselves because it had finally happened to you and it was very insulting so therefore you don't want to be that way to others so you keep it to yourself.

yes let it bother you that on another board i didnt believe something you said. i guess i just have a hard time believeing people what can i say. either way if you want a long winded apology your still not getting it.

I'm definitely not restricting co-dependence to AS parents. Actually, I think the term co-Dependant may differ according to the "designation" of the parent. I think this goes as much for AS parents as NT parents and the "designation" simply being that of an "open" or "closed" mind-set. An NT social attitude may reinforce NTs as being more inclined to this sort of behaviour but from my experience it seems to run the gamut.

If the parent is closed and rooted in the negative social attitudes reinforced by the NT community then co-dependence is most likely a problem rooted in the belief of disability and thus the need for conformity to an NT model. My AS parent falls into this category. He has constructed an NT model in which he believes he must fit and thus I must follow suit as a sub-extension of him. He literally constructs co-dependence as a way to assert his own independence through conformity to an negative NT model. He denies his AS and burdens mine with a belief in disability.

On the other hand my NT parent (who may fall lightly on the AS spectrum) is open to differences. We run on a different part of the co-dependent spectrum. She relies on my abilities that she finds difficult and perhaps is all too eager to step-in in areas that are difficult to an AS, especially regarding social "obligations". Although our co-dependence is rooted in an openness to ability it has more breathing room and I find it much easier to claim moments of independence.

I am curious about other AS experiences with AS parents.

There was a statistic that surfaced a while back regarding AS marriages and supposedly, as long as both partners were open to their AS and not in denial, AS marriages are said to proportionally last longer than NT marriages.

Einstein was just lucky. It's all about luck for us.

If it weren't for my parents, I would have still been stuck in Montana suffering with my crappy life or maybe not be where I am now. I was lucky I had parents who cared about me and wanted me to live a normal life as possible and have me be successful in my adulthood when I reach it so they used their money to work with me and giveme the therapy I needed and help, my mother even used her time to work with me, she even quit her job just to be home to teach me to talk and work with my sensory issues. I would have probably been a Nell if they didn't work with me my mother says and I probably would have been violent too because I didn't know how to express myself properly. I was even lucky they didn't listen to the doctors because they were told I would never be able to talk, I would never be able to learn to take care of myself, be successful and I be in an institution.

No I just believe you're an ass. You were the only one who doubted it BTW, no one else. I don't care if other people like you on here, if they saw the s**t you did to me on intensity, then they would know.

everyone likedcalico posted a picture of her p**** over at intensity and i said it wasnt hers and she was faking, but it really did turn out to belong to her. hows that for being an ass? and btw i still think rakitty_tam was fibbing when he said his uncle was on one of those planes that went down on septemeber 11th.

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I wonder how true this is? Does anyone else have an overwhelming sense of luck?

Friends and Family are continually commenting on how lucky I seem to be in all aspects of my life. All sorts of luck too, "Your really lucky you didn't hurt yourself walking into that wall." to "You always seem to be lucky when it comes to life opportunities and finding good friends."

And does anyone tend to notice an overwhelming sense of synchronicity?

It is continuous. ie. I will read about a new type of rare object and the next day I will find it. Then I will learn about that object only to find that it has to do with another new object. Then, the next day I will find that rare object. It is helpful in my work but it tends to concern work partners as suspiciously lucky

I definitely think you are right that Einstein was lucky. He managed to get a job at a patent office that he enjoyed, but I believe his mentors in academia set him up with it or at least put in a good word. I don’t think he had much time for filling out job applications when he spent all his time thinking about theoretical physics. He also had other people take care of a lot of the mundane life stuff for him because his mind was always elsewhere. I think people tend to whitewash the difficulties he had because they idolize him.

I’m sure there have been many people as bright as Einstein who just weren’t born in the right place or right time to realize their potential. There are billions of people who are born into poverty and probably some of them are potential geniuses, but instead they drew the short straw in life. Of course there are some people who are able to overcome through sheer will power, but I would say luck is an important factor.

I never thought anything about you either way, Calico. Why do you care what other people think anyway?

apparently her life isnt facinating enough for her to mind her own business. but anyways she does have a good point, i just dont like apologising on cue. especially when someone expects it, i like to suprise people

I see likedcalico's point. It is kind of annoying when people don't believe you when you are in fact telling the truth.

However it's also annoying when people say stuff that's obviously BS (as in I can prove they're making sh*t up) and yet I can't call them on it because it would be considered impolite or inappropriate in the setting.

exactly. i mean im nieve but not gullible. also i dont see the big deal about asking someone to prove anything they say, listen if you get on the internet and say that youve been struck by lighting twice or one of your uncles was on one of the planes that went down on 9/11 you better show some kind of proof. i can get online and say all kinds of lies, i usually try to provide proof with almost anything i say as i look at it as a courtasy. i had $10,000 and i posted a picture of a bank slip saying so, i just didn get online saying guess what guys, i have $10,000.

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Yea. Being struck by lightning twice in one life seems very unlikely unless one regularly hangs out on top of a mountain or tower during thunderstorms. There are documented cases though.

What I don't get is why Ticker tells us all these things when she would probably deny that she wants us to feel sorry for her. I can't stand people who wear their ailments as a badge of honor and simultaneously use them to put other people down. Seems like manipulative behavior to me.