07 Oct 2007, 4:08 pm
richardbenson
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07 Oct 2007, 4:13 pm
i usually only have meltdowns when i cant deal with a situation. or am drunk and have flashbacks 
i try removing myself the situation and come back to it when i'm calmer, to finish
07 Oct 2007, 4:21 pm
I actually had to medicate myself with weed, alcohol and antidepressants just to get through this - it made the meltdown livable - otherwise maybe I would have just offed myself. I kid you not. But the end result was I just got sick to my stomach. 
07 Oct 2007, 4:54 pm
07 Oct 2007, 4:58 pm
But that's because I think 'This shouldn't be happening to me' it's kind of positive within itself... sorta means I'm shocked by how I could feel so low.
I do use the one phrase over and over "Strength is best served through defeat"
And I also seem to truly think I'm awesome lol. I know this is quite arrogant I'll admit... but I'm not stuck up - I don't think I'm better than others one bit. I'm just bracing myself and feeling strong in how I deal with it.
There is a modest side to me as well lol...
That sounds pretty awesome that you do that. It sure helps to have a mantra. I think I had one at a certain time....maybe I should get a new one. That's really a good idea.
07 Oct 2007, 7:20 pm
08 Oct 2007, 6:38 am
I can cope with them at home by going into a rage and letting out utterances akin to what an x-rated Yosemite Sam might very well sound like, I have broken things in the past too but that is something I hate to do, mostly because it was my stuff 
. I can't do this in public as I would surely get arrested...
08 Oct 2007, 6:45 am
08 Oct 2007, 6:57 am
08 Oct 2007, 7:02 am
. I can't do this in public as I would surely get arrested...I used to rage a lot as well. Those were my blow up times - literally as opposed to my melt down era (currently fading out).....Blowups usually involved me hurling words or objects and hitting something or one...meltdowns - it's usually just me getting hit. I figure the one I'm causing most harm to is myself - and it's true - I feel like crap afterwards, including the negative emotions..remorse...etc. If I feel someone is totally out of line and there's danger involved, blowups do tend to come in handy. But because they're so dangerous they probably should only be resorted to in a life or death situation.....2 sense......
08 Oct 2007, 7:04 am
1. Mental distraction - a mantra, an iPod, meditation, reading something short like a poem or a short story. I find Joyce's Dubliners to be good.
2. Physical distraction - some people swear by pushups. Your mileage may vary. =)
3. Stimuli control - darken the lights. muffle the sounds. curl up and rock. Tough to do in public though.
Good luck!
Great list...2 more to add - ear plugs and shades - they're absolute life savers
08 Oct 2007, 7:04 am
. I can't do this in public as I would surely get arrested...I used to rage a lot as well. Those were my blow up times - literally as opposed to my melt down era (currently fading out).....Blowups usually involved me hurling words or objects and hitting something or one...meltdowns - it's usually just me getting hit. I figure the one I'm causing most harm to is myself - and it's true - I feel like crap afterwards, including the negative emotions..remorse...etc. If I feel someone is totally out of line and there's danger involved, blowups do tend to come in handy. But because they're so dangerous they probably should only be resorted to in a life or death situation.....2 sense......
Yeah I'll sit down and slam my fists into my knees, that gets the energy out without directing it towards another person or even worse, my belongings.
08 Oct 2007, 7:15 am
Yeah I'll sit down and slam my fists into my knees, that gets the energy out without directing it towards another person or even worse, my belongings.
No kidding. One time I hurled a H U G E rose quartz crystal (must've weighed about 15lbs or so) across the room and it hit my guitar, chipping off the veneer and scraping it in 2 places. Never did that again or ever will methinks..
08 Oct 2007, 8:45 am
Ok, first, I didn't realise that my losses of temper were part of the ASD symptoms. Duh!!
That explains why I almost never met anyone else who had them like mine.
Me too , have thrown and broken and hit and wrecked and so on.
It just seems to arrive without warning. I don't think I've ever been able to stop one.
But one mantra I have for times when I think I'm getting into the sort of space where meltdown is perhaps more likely, is :
" Life is s**t". ( or a quote from "The Princess Bride": Life is pain; anyone tells you different is selling something." )
I think it works cos it reminds me that life is a mess, that humans are a mess, that neither people nor their systems are logical. It connects me to reality , and I have less trouble living in the mess.I don't expect it to function according to a manual or something.
