NT's think WE are dismissing THEM? NOW YOU TELL ME!

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^That was the only way I could think to sum up the meaning of this post in the small space available.

I'm wondering how common this is around here - that you just went through your whole life under the impression that people disliked you because they thought you'd reduce their social standing, only to discover MUCH too late that for all these years your body language causedthem to think that you were actually choosing to ignore them!

While typing this, I have a grudge. It has now sunk so deep into my subconscious, that I'm inferior and the real people want me to apologize for being born, that it frustrates me to have to admit that this conditioning was one lifelong bloody misunderstanding!

I've had severe social phobia throughout my teens, and even at 21, I was convinced that I needed to find a mega-complicated way of justifying my hideous self before I'd have the right to hang out with people. I thought it would take some kind of counterculture revolution.

I can't even bring myself to use the word 'rude' as it's as if I'm admitting they were right. ('They' being the people who said it of me).

~goes to sleep~ ~hope to be more productive later~

It's a misunderstanding.
It will help if you apologize all the same and explain to them about your problems.

NT usually won't say anything about something someone else does that annoyes them. They just drop hints and then get mad when the other person doesn't pick up on the hint and moditfy his or her behavior.When an NT finally speals up, it's often when they're ready to blow their tops.

Aspies really appreciate advice because being annoying is the last thing they want to do. It's hard.

I have realised quite recently that an NT rejected me because the message I was giving off was one of non-interest. I have tried to contact this persons to correct this wrong impression but he isn't interested in speaking to me which is a shame.

I have therefore decided that from now on I will make sure that friends and important colleagues are aware of my AS. (I exclude my work colleagues because this kind of information can be used against one.)

I think I would only tell people who are special to me since in my experience, people will take such information and deny you the validation of agreeing that you have a syndrome and then try to aggravate any perceived vulnerabilities. Bang the gong, b*****s because my brain can click off and on to my convenience. This truth of human nature is what I learned at an early age from observing an insular community and my father agreed with me that that is what people are like. But he said that "our problem" increased in me than in him and I think he is right because I couldn't even bond with anyone on Warcraft when I was grinding for my brother and he also said I was like a grandparent but that it had skipped him and increased exponentially in me in other words I'm a baaad girl. He said a lot of things about me all negative but I may be bad originally but I behaved better than he did as a good man confused and out of touch with himself. I don't think that aspie makes me vulnerable to NTs because I have a lot of fight and a lot that I haven't shared with anyone because I haven't met anyone worth sharing me with. So the general population, I don't care what you know and what you think. There should be a section for high functioning well behaved but really mean aspies. Did anyone else connect to Odo in the last 3 seasons of DS9? Remember how disappointed he was in the Dominion even though they gave him so much comfort?