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Maybe I am exaggerating but since my diagnosis and coming here I have started to think about people I meet, met and around me of whom I am nearly pretty sure they are aspie too.

I think of teh fact of how I had 'strange, weird behaving friends, (according to my mum), who in retrospect could have been Aspie.

Do we attract each other and do we have sort of Aspiedar (like in gaydar) to recognize others like us?

I think so. My husband is definitely an Aspie, and after researching it I found out that I am too. We both had no clue until recently but it all kind of makes sense. Both of our mothers are probably also aspies, and I can think of probably 10 friends I've had before that fit the criteria.

Yeahh!.. that is probably true.. accept I dont know anyone like that..

Well, do you know about quantum chromodynamics? lol.

anyways, we can attract each other, but thats got to be chemistry generally even more complicated than NT chemistry.

But I can pick out assorted different mental conditions just walking down the street. Scitzophrenics, obssessive compulsives, anal retentives, sociopaths, aspies, autists, depressives, manics... once you know what to look for its like being in the jungle.
Thats what archetypal discussions like the elven thread are really about; modes of self identification and what they really mean as sub text poetically.


Whats interesting is how it plays out when you spot a behavior and thats some sort of positive but you really need more sampling to make a real judgment.



Anways, yeah i mean read the DSM and then walk down the street as an aspie and realize goddess gifted you with a brain difference that gives you a lot of perspective.
turn it the right way and you can become really good at figuring out whats up with different people.

Yes, I have noticed it too. But, what is that theory that goes something like: When you notice something, it begins to appear all around you.

It may be a sort of manifesting your will, I'm not sure.

It seems logical that we would rather be around other people who are like us rather than other "normal" people.

I would think it is probably easier to tell whether someone has Asperger's than whether someone is gay. Some people do seem to have "gaydar" but strictly speaking the only thing that is "gay" is being attracted to the same sex and it is possible to conceal that entirely. It has got to be easier to conceal Asperger's than gayness - one can be gay but never act on one's attractions/desires, whereas it's pretty hard to have Asperger's and not "act on it".

I think people generally try to find like-minded people to befriend. In our case I think we mostly look for people who are either like us or will accept us the way we are.

My hubby might be an aspie, at least he has some of the traits. I don't think any other friends I've had in my life are aspies, but I've tried to surround myself with friends who accept me the way I am and care about other things that superficial stuff.

I have one very good friend who Ive been friends with since junior high school. We were both just recently diagnosed. We have completely different lives but we still get along just as well as when we were kids. Everyone in school used to say that we shared the same brain....they were partially right. We live very far away from eachother but we still have remained in contact for all these years. Its funny too because we came from a very small town in the midwest....there were only 23 people in our graduating class.

I definitely have Aspiedar. But maybe I've just become really good at identifying others because I'm desperate to find someone with similar traits.

I do too, I am 100% sure my uncle is under the spectrum as well.

Not necessarily AS. I think people who are considered 'odd' tend to attract more people who are considered 'odd'. All four of my friends have something or other.

My best and longest-lasting friend has OCD. My other best friend is ADHD. My close friend is a fetal-alcohol kid, and my good friend just daydreams constantly.

I have good Aspiedar, though. In a library a few days go I was sitting at one of the tables, reading a book. There was an auttie there, being social-skills trained by someone. When the person giving the training left to go to the washroom, he stared at me.

I knew he was autistic. He knew I was autistic. So I looked up at him, and we actually locked eyes for a few seconds, I smiled at him, and then continued to read.

And I'm pretty sure my good friend with the fetal-alcohol syndrome could also be an aspie. I wonder if the symptoms can overlap...

Maybe some have it.

I do not have it. I often don't know if somebody has another disability that is 'obvious' to the people around me. All people are odd to my mind.

I didn't know some of my bullies had such mental disorders until I was told or overheard it.

A lot of just insecure and shy people tried to befriend me though, because they thought I had that in common with them. I never liked that much because I'm not insecure or shy.

Yes. Aspiedar is the word I use. Mine has gotten so good, that while on the other side of the house, I knew my mom was talking on the phone upstairs to an aspie. and she was!

If you're judging by strange, weird behavior, then you're going to identify a lot of people as aspies who aren't, and miss a lot who are. Getting diagnosed is only the first step; you also need to get the stereotypes out of your head.

I would agree with UnusualSuspect about getting rid of the stereotypes, but, to respond to Loborojo's question, "Do we attract each other?" I tend to think that "we" do. We recognize behavior that is like our own and are drawn to people who present themselves in society as we do. We feel comfortable with such people, hence, the success of Wrong Planet.

sometime recently i seemed to of aquired the ability to tell if someones got aspergers within an hour of meeting them. although often i can't confirm it for a few weeks. in one case i was sure for a few years and then found out i was right a few years after i first thought about it. i'd say we do. somewhat. and tbh i mutch prefer the company of aspergers to NT's