Are you a lover or a fighter?

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20 Oct 2007, 5:37 pm

Well Awkward I prefer to be a Lover but I am a Fighter as well.

The Fighter in me is the part that will not back down, that goes into meltdown and loses control. does not recognise the NT rules. The Lover is a new part that recognises that the majority of my issues are down to me, I am responsible for my re/actions.

I have had enough relationships to realise that my partners see me as something I do not recognise, that they are satiated by me but not me by them, that they wish me to go further and further due to my creativity. I find the personal relationships incredibly problematic except on the most peripheral of contacts - yet I have been married for 20 years? Maybe we just work harder...

The Fighter side has always been there but i question it constantly. I am very involved in Mahayarna/Zen Buddhism and that shows me a very plausible alternative path.

Peace

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20 Oct 2007, 5:37 pm

No-one will admit to being a fighter

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20 Oct 2007, 5:50 pm

I'm a lover. I love to give hugs to people that I know. :heart:

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20 Oct 2007, 5:51 pm

im both. i used to be more of a fighter (with words) mostley online but i rarely do that anymore

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20 Oct 2007, 5:59 pm

I am both and would expect most to be both, depending on the situation they are in.

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20 Oct 2007, 6:06 pm

Im a lover as well.
I hate confortation. It makes me very uncomfortable. It also makes me uncomfortable when a women is mad with me but giving me the slient treatment. I have no idea what i did wrong at the time, which in turn produces a vicious cycle of uncomfortableness as neither of us are talking to each other. The tension gets so bad that one of us just ends up walking away.
I usually figure out what i did wrong a couple days later and apologize for my rude behaivour

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20 Oct 2007, 6:29 pm

I tend to be a lover, but have been known to flex my beer muscles now and again. No sane person stops two doormen from having a full on fight, let alone put the bigger one into a submission hold that almost killed him.

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20 Oct 2007, 10:09 pm

I put lover because I don't believe in violence but when I was younger and was at around the middle school age I use to get into fights every week; I always won but that didn't make it right.

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21 Oct 2007, 5:45 am

I am neither.

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21 Oct 2007, 5:51 am

I used to be a fighter, when I had to. It'd leave me feeling drained and weak, so I generally tried to be as passive as I could. I think I've gone too far the other way though, now I can't even ask someone to do there job without feeling guilty. My husband generaly takes care of making sure I'm protected and happy. ^^ So I guess I'm a lover...

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21 Oct 2007, 4:27 pm

I'm neigher. I can be a figher around people I know well but I'm more timid around strangers or people I don't know well. I'm generally gentle and polite though.

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