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Ratherthan continue an old thread...
I am homeless,yes,San Francisco is expensive,but,getting anywhere else would tend to take much more than any immediaten rent savings.
My only other place with anyconceivable,real,"roots" is the New York City area,even MORE expensive!
I have MediCal here in California.
However , the Socialservices people here appear to be sick of me, kind o I am diabetic.
Sleeping outside,I tend to piss-poo outside,which I'm not proud of

dude all of california is expencive, i wanted to live in san diego and rents there were upards of approaching $1,000 a month for an apartment, for an apartment! yikes. i remember last time you said you got ssdi, so have you thought about getting a bus ticket outof there? ive been looking at el paso texas and it is very cheap! but extremely ugly, hot and close to mexico. personally i'd rather be poor and live in a beautiful place than be rich and live in a ugly place.

Where did you look? My mother is paying at least VERY close to $1000 in San diego, and she is on SSI ******AND****** in a HUD project! And YEAH, that is for a small apartment for people on FIXED INCOME!! !

EL PASO!?

What would ever possess you to go live there?
I grew up there for a lot of my childhood and if I ever move back to Texas it would not be that place!

I still have family there.
I suppose the idea of it being 'cheap' to live there is appealing.
Personally, if I were to move back to Texas, I would only go to the Austin area... the Hill Country!

Actually, I found the desert country around El Paso to be quite beautiful... it was the city and the politics that soured me on the place.

I'm curious how you come to the conclusion that it is cheap?
Once you get there and see what kind of money you get whether it is from a paycheck or social services, you might find it is not so cheap afterall.

I know things are expensive in California, but you can make more per hour here than in El Paso too.

Oh, and with them cracking down on border crossings... passports, stricter inspections, etc., it is probably not so cheap to go to Mexico and shop anymore either. I don't know for sure, but that's what I figure. I'll have to ask my sister about that.

It used to be that you could walk or drive across the border into Juarez in the morning, hit the different markets and supermercados, buy ultra cheap groceries and alcohol(if that is your thing), maybe have an early dinner at a nice place for cheap, then head back over the border, say "American" when the nice INS person asks what nationality you are, and drive on home.

Later, the lines started getting so long that you were backed up in traffic all the way back to Mexico, if you got a little 'smart-assed' like my girlfriend at the time did once with the INS person, they would make you turn around and drive all the way back to Mexico (yes, they can refuse entry even to Americans... you have to complain AFTER you finally get back over), and the inspections were getting a bit more personal more frequently.

Like I said, now, I can only suspect it's an even greater PITA to go back-and-forth.

I suppose a person could check out those polls which rate the "best American cities to live in", to find a better place.

Oh i would never live there, i was probably checking out the cost of living in el paso because i have to move in 6 months. i'll probably just end up staying where i currently live. its expencive here but its pretty much worth it
steve i just looked in regular san diego, nowhere near the beach. just somewhere in the city limits

how about teaching english in japan? I wouldn't recommend Thailand although it is very cheap because they rip off english teachers there. I have a feeling that the japanese can handle aspies. I wonder what their aspie percentage is.

Icouldn't acess a cpmouter until today and have not yet read the replies yet!
I willnow.

Just one of mymany points here is this
I have REALLY bad teeth,alack
Basically, they(sigh) have to be pulled , I guess immediate dentures put in-Had I loads of $,I'd get impants-Obviously,I don't.

dude you need your own reality show! im saying

Well,this maysound like more"reality show",or,as I' was going to put it , a "soap opera"...but hereth goeth.
1,my brother is ret*d and autistic,"really"r/a,he's always been that way. He lives in a - very nice, I'mnot being sarcastic - group home,in NY State , where we grew up.
I haven't been in the same room as him for about ten years I send him guilt gifts of CDs and stuff from Amazon-Com (I have a debit card)-I don't even have a musuc player myself.
I believe a relative I do have,my fermale cousin,has stolen some money that belongs to me from me.(Basically , long long ago my mother's father laft his two married daughters,my mother and my aunt,some $,rights to some mineral holdings split 50/50 between them.My father told that even after he was ,I was supposed to receive a % of it for the rest of my life,tho,even if I had kids,it would revert to "The Texans" upon my
I never read my mother's,or her father's,will.
Briefly,after the last older-generation relative who had been sending me my % of the money for my mother died,myfemale cousin,my aunt's daughter,became the person who paid out the $ from the minerals-and claimed that she could decide whether or not to pay any $ to me,and that she had decided not to.However,she has refused to show me my grandfather's will that would say this (But,it's in Texas and far away from here). The cousin also,immediately after my aunt's , did not tell me that the had happened(My aunt's demise was of a terminal illness,so it wasn't a suprise.),though I had already given her my then-main E-mail address and told her how to find my USPS address-Even then,after my aunt's ,I did not find out for going on two weeks,when,thinking my aunt was still alive,I called her home(& got her husband-my uncle-and,obviously,rather hurt him somewhat when i did not know that it had happened,incidentally.),at which time I was told that she had "gone on a trip to rest" after the funeral,I both told my uncle and another relative of my not having found out about the passing of my aunt before,but,still,she sent me no note or comment(or apolgy).
Now,personal feelings aside,it seems fairly obvious to me that my female cousin did this on purpose,and,her motive was MONEY-to create an impression of "Bad ol'(Hank), he didn't even care enough about (My aunt-Who , if anything,I was much the closest to of any one of them.) to even send a note! " Well , yeah. Because I assumed that she'd tell me. I most definitely told her the E-mail and USPS facts,in seperate phone calls,I remember them distinctly.
Immediately after this my FC said that she would continue paying the mineral $ to me_At that time I had yet to sign over my percentage of "THE FARM" (some unused farm land their side and my parents' side mutually held),after I did sign away my percentage of it,yup!,THEN she declared " I can decide whether to pay you or not." I do have witnesses to this,I used a 3d party in dealing with her.
Eventually,shesaid she'd send me a copy of my GF's will_A 3d party was till working with me then.
After that I delayed on pushing her-I,even,sent her $40 dollars "to help with the sending of the will" (Admittedly,this was done more as protection for myself but Isent it and she accepted it,and,didn't bother w/the 3dP anymore.)_...Eventually,on the phone,she told me that she'd "changed her mind" about sending me the will,oh, and that I hadn't asked her if she wanted the $40.
I have tried to get some help re: this,but,it tends to break upon a shoal of "Oh,you have to contact a Texas lawyer."
I do think my mother's will MIGHT hold some answers on this,but,she lived and died,really,in New York State,I guess it could,even,get send here_maybe_but,as I'm homelessnow_(I never read my mother's will,or any other relatives',in their lifetime,trusting my parents.Tho I still think my parents were trustworthy,this was a mistake.)

Stillmore...
There have been additional developmentsince I wrote that,at a charity place that had free computers.
I found out that my sleeping bag had been stolen. From within the charity place.where I left it
That was all the bedding I had,to sleep outside,and not all that much either
Now it's gone,and I have no money to buy new bedding.
I went,immediately after,to the Social Services office,to see if I could get a shelter bed or some spare sheets,however,the social worker,literally,almost,said that she couldn't doanything for me because I hadn't shown up on time for a previous appointment that day,and if I showed up on time tomorrow ,we could talk then.
I have no sleeping bags (Actually,it was less than a sleeping bag,more,a pad and a couple of blankets),it's getting cold here...She gave me - at 4 in the afternoon - some vauge "Go to this place to be referred to somewhere else for maybe a shelter bed" ,and maybe more complication beyond that,but,that will likely not lead to anything. Also,as I indicated,I'm not completely clean,which would likely lead to an unfavorable reaction by shelter personell,who can be nasty.
And,I am so Aspie-shy,Aspie-ness kind of explains my often difficulty in approaching someone-And,really,she was not doing anything special,after waiting til 4 in the afternoon to see me,and,again,actually telling me that I hadn't shown up on time,and,when i said that I had had the crisis (of my bag being stolen),she saidwords of/such like,"Well,if you were here more I don't think there would be a crisis" ,literally!
I have no place,my sleeping bag-and everything else-is 100% gone,it's likely to rain tonight( It hasn't to a large extent in weeks.) , it is COLD...

hank man, i am sooo sorry for your troubles. I cannott beleive that these personall who are suppose to assist people down on their luck are not being helpful. I have no advice, just know im thinking about ya and I hope things improve. The next time u get payed be sure (and i hope its soon) that you have/get what you need, as nice as it is to buy your bro CD's and stuff, i think u gotta worry about yourself and make sure u have basic survival stuff to last until the next time u get payed.

For now, keep being diligent, ask for help whereever u need to, stay outa the rain, get in somewhere warm and dry, a place with a meal and a bed, it may be hard but u can do it man!! I dont want to hear u got hypothermia, its a serious concern, i spend much time outdoors and camp all year round, and hypothermia and dehydration are top concerns always!! be careful/safe.

Ill be thinking about you, you are in my preyers

Justto mention,looking at the Music/TV forums,I have ABSOLUTELY NO access to music,realistically speaking,I get cheap radions/players at times and theyre cheep pieces of sh*t and fall apart anyway!
I seemovies sometimes .
I'm,essentially,completely cut off from TV,really.
I see the Internet at charity places like this-silent,so no You Tube,etcetera,let alone anything else.
My teeth are SO BAD
I am in a shelter now-Given that it's been raing these last days,nessecary,but,even there,I have to leave at 6ish in the morning and its already raining then and I get wet beyond that
They don't start to open til 9:30 PM or so,what will I do to pass the time after 5:30? Get rained on for hours?
Further,(even on better days) you can't get enough sleep in a shelter they don't let you get enough hours,you'd think they would but they don't,on case you don't know.
This has been by shelter experience past-still now.
I wonder if my teeth might get cancerous or something?

...One of my feet , the one that had the 1/2 toe amputated from it , has been swelling .
I'll see the NP tomorrow about it...

That sucks! so..you are staying in california for the time being aye?

If ye had an address and that big a need of it (i.e. not available where you are, I reckon I could send you a sleeping bag and some essentials if you needed them...We have extras lying around.

it would be by first class groundmail...but um.... p.m. me if there are any specifics that you really need that are practical enuff to send them through the mail and whatnot....and I will see what I can do.