Do you ever feel like everyone is cold to you?

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I call customer service, the customer service/operator is cold. I go meet someone in person, the receptionist is cold and so is the stranger. I go to supermarket or the store, the cashier is cold.

Maybe they are tired or maybe that's just the way they are, but I can't help but wonder if they are cold to me because they don't like me. I get this type of response so often I'd be remiss if I didn't consider the possibility that maybe people don't like me .

Does anyone feel the same way?

You will start to expect it from everyone and get used to it eventually, dont worry..

I don't think a lot of customer service people are as personable as they should be. I don't think it's you. I worked in customer service for a long time, and people can get really jaded by how rude customers can be to them, or there are some who really dislike their job. So they aren't as warm and kind as they could be.

Good point. If they seem cold, they may just be keeping some protective distance in case the customer starts to unload on them.

No, I'm the cold one. Everyone else is very interested in me.

I feel like my parents are. Espicaly my dad and they say I'm the selfish one because I don't want to fly to Texas to visit the family. I have never enjoyed visting people if they makes me selfish then I guess I am.

I used to feel that way to an extent. Like the very nature of people was to be cold. I felt like my mother was cold when I was really little. I was afraid to say or do the wrong thing around her, to look the wrong way.

There have been times that I've felt that way. Times when I was put on hold, or that a receptionist refused to make an effort to understand my accent, or even times that I was dealing with family and relatives.

Sid :O)

I agree with you i have also done customer service work and some people can be really scatty or people who work at customer service don't really greet the customers at times.

These people you list, you can't really blame them. They deal with a lot of rude people all day long. They put up a wall after a while.

I don't feel it, I know it! I have always been a very detestable person, probably due to my flat affect and my tendency to laugh at the most inappropriate times (namely funerals). I fail to empathise with people in general, and for this reason I suspect I may also have comorbid psychopathy.

I think a lot of people feel the same way, and not only people with AS or autism. I've heard NT friends complain about exactly the same thing. Maybe society in itself encourages "cold" behaviour. Sad, really.
But I can understand why especially people in customer service or in supermarkets are like that - it's a hard job, they have to deal with a lot of really rude and unfriendly people, AND they aren't even paid well for it... Must be horrid, even for a sociable person.

Inability to feel empathy is sociopathy, not psychopathy. Unless you also have hallucinations or delusions. Just sayin'.

You're confusing psychopathy, a variant of sociopathy, with psychosis, which includes delusions and hallucinations. Psychopaths are very lucid, if not "sane" in the pure sense of the word.

People with Asperger's are more effected by other people's actions. We don't have the "shield" that NT's have. That is why a lot of Aspies feel strange showing emotions on their face or expressing them other way. We feel silly doing them. But the reality is..it wouldn't be silly to other people.