Does It Bother You To Have People Feeling Sorry For You?

Post Reply New Topic

Somehow it rubs me the wrong way. I don't like it. I want to be looked up to for my abilities and talents. Having people simply feeling sorry for you. I don't think so. From what I picked up on the thread about Autism Speaks this is part of the reason a lot of posters feel this way about Autism Speaks. Just my opinion.

So are you talking about people feeling sorry for the fact that you're autistic, or just people feeling bad for you in general?

I'd like to hear more about the people who feel sorry for you. Why do they do that? How many of them are there? And do they feel sorry for you because they know you have AS? If so, how do they know? And finally, what makes you think that anyone feels sorry for you? Does anyone tell you that?
To answer your question, I wouldn't like it at all to have anyone feel sorry for me. Why should they?

No-one feels sorry for me, and I like it that way. My family and friends know that Asperger's Syndrome does not cause me any major distress in any way.

I don't particularly like ppl feelin sorry 4 me cos havin AS isn't a bad ting at all infact im quite clever at certain tings like train timetables, memorisin road maps n knowin most of da capitals/cities of most countries so i would like 2 b recongised in a postive way 4 my talents.

Well spelling is definitely not one of your talents.

Yes, it bothers me. I'd rather be admired and respected than pitied. Luckily for me, I don't know of anyone who feels sorry for me.

yes and therefore i don't complain to others. i've also learned that it is easier to overcome my problems if i keep them for myself. sometimes, after sharing them with others, i feel good that someone pities me but then it only gets worse, because i want more and more and it ends with people avoiding me...

there is a thread here about how nice it is that we all write with proper spelling. it was on few months ago and it's already not valid. english isn't my native language, so it's easier for me to read if written properly.

I think that howzat is a texter. That's why the spelling. Just read phonetically and you'll figure it out.

I've noticed people are more careful around me sometimes, and that they tend to want to help me with a lot of small things. That bothers me tremendously, because when I actually DO ask for help, they never see what is so difficult about what I'm doing that I would need help with it. The times that they do decide to up and help, I don't actually need the help, lol.

I often wonder how I must appear to other people... I try to remember that they don't see things the way that I do, and try to explain that just because I'm analyzing something doesn't mean it is something anyone else can help me figure out. I must come to conclusions for myself before I readily accept them usually. What I need more help with is just getting every day things done while I'm analyzing the other things, lol.

Yes, it does bother me when people feel sorry for me.

No. Not in the least. Empathy is good.

Empathy itself is good, that is for sure. I think where I get annoyed is that I'm empathic in different ways, so I never understand why they are doing things the way that they are doing

I have a hard time when people say "awww, don't be so hard on yourself" if I'm analyzing myself, because to me, I'm not. I am merely stating facts and pinpointing my own difficulties so I can try to apply it to how others react, and figure out a means of doing things differently to get a different outcome. People don't get that though, lol, they just say "awww... it must be so HARD for you", and of course that just sends me back into analyzing mode, lol.

Yes and no... it all depends on the person feeling sorry for me...
If I think it's pity then yes - it definately bothers me... if I think it's someone genuinely caring and worrying for me - that's cool.

For instance - I wouldn't want Heather feeling sorry for me... but then I wouldn't mind if my ol' good friend Faye felt sorry for me.

No body that I know of now feels sorry for me.

I have had a few people feel sorry for me though. Yes, it does bother me slightly. I really dislike it when people say things to me such as..."It must be really hard for you"...that bothers me greately as yes, somethings are more challenging but it's not like I am dying and need the sympathy!! !

It bugs me when people feel sorry for me.

Sid :O)