Do You Have Mentally Ill Parents?

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Are your parents rageaholics, alcoholics, abuse victims, criminals, borlderline personality types, cruel, demeaning, blaming, victimizing, abusive, sarcastic, punishing?

Do you carry the scars of being the product of mentally ill parents?

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My father has been in prison before...not saying the reason though. It was before I was born. He also smokes weed.

My mother drinks everyday, but is not what you would call a "raging alcoholic". She is an abuse victim and does go through depressive states sometimes.

I don't have any scars physically from my parents. Emotionally, I hold a grudge against my mother for always drinking and then making me lye to my grandmother about why she looks "ill" the next day.
I barely know my father, so I don't have any scars physically or emotionally from him.

Most of what you described are actually behaviours. To answer your question my my father was BiPolar. Do I believe that the mentally ill have more difficulty regulating their behaviour?...yes I do.

These are the negative behaviors/symptoms/patters of every major psychological disorder which can then be broken down into elements or expanded upon in their manifestations.

i think my mom was asperger,and my grandmother was too,my mom is always
eccentricity.she's relation to everyone is very bad.

Nope.

Some of those listed can be "symptoms" of personality disorders, addictive disorders and/or conduct disorders; most "major" mental illnesses aren't defined by such behavior (anxiety disorders, mood disorders, psychotic disorders and whatnot).

I'd like to see the textbook that states being abused is a form of mental illness.

I'm the mentally ill one in the family, interestingly enough.

Actually yes. All of the negative symptoms of these disorders stem from the root of fear and the acting out behaviors are all those which were stated in the original post. Fear underlines all disorders - there is nothing else that wreaks havoc and destruction in the soul, body and mind like fear. It tears aways at the fabric of esteem and it breaks the soul in to fragments - aka mental illness.

I believe my parents are something.

One of my parents is clinically paranoid - but in denail. The other is HFA - again in denial.

i dont know if there mentally i'll, but there extremely disfunctional. i'll tell you that much. one of my stepdads is a kiddie toucher so hes totally mentally ill though

My father is mentally ill. He's had several breakdowns over the course of the past decade or so (according to my mother). One of those breakdowns landed him in an institution. He was diagnosed with severe depression, but I think there is another problem that is not being addressed, because even though he's on medication he still seems unwell.

I always thought my mother was mentally ill.

I remember being 13 and going into the Dr.'s office to tell them how I felt her "symptoms" were psychosomatic and that he shouldn't be prescribing her any kind of narcotics!, as it was only bound to feed her dependency and act as, yet another crutch. Nearly 17 years later, I still feel the same.

She has always showed many aggressive behaviours. She is known to be abusive, mentally, emotionally and physically. She lashes out and has meltdowns, sensory overload, real boundary issues, lack of censorship, and is socially inept. Her family shunned her and thought they she may have been schizophrenic. Only she really doesn't display any of those symptoms as far as I can tell (they were just uneducated and grasping at straws, unsure what to make of her) and well, we have questioned her ways for our entire lives. There were many things we have tossed around, but nothing quite fit, until more recently when my daughter was dx'd AS and we all started looking into it a little more seriously.

Looking back, I am sure that her parents were alcoholics and not knowing how to cope with a child like her (no!! not an excuse for bad behaviour, I know, but either way, this is an accurate observation) they lashed out and were physically abusive and well, I think she has an ASD and has perpetuated the cycle by acting on her anger and lashes out physically also.

My biological mother is mentaly ret*d. They say she was probably just Autistic but she was neglected by my bio grandfather when my biological grandmother died. I know absoutley nothing about my biological father except that he met my bio mother in a bar and "took advantage of her" and got her pregneant with me.

Yes, both of them; and yes I do as do my siblings. One of my sisters is currently institutionalized, against her will (but probably for the best).

That which does not kill me makes me stronger, until it finally does kill me, or so they say. The fires in my life temper me, rather than burn me; from the fires in my life springs forth art, rather than hurt; force of will is what makes the difference, though it is not inexhaustible in supply. Still, I’m set for the charge; I will be something better than them; I will learn from their mistakes, and my own; I live my life to snap the chain, rather than become just another link.

Good fortune,

- Icarus could have been a serial killer, but chose to be a serial healer instead...

Mom has been institutionalized five times courtesy of Bipolar mania (I think it adds up to about a year in confinement at this point). Dad was probably AS, but he's no longer around to confirm or deny that suspicion, though some indicators were definitely there.

I haven't read a lot that suggests genetic linkage to AS (though there is definitely genetic predisposition for Bipolar). I suspect that's a result of a lack of long-term studies, and the reticence of AS parents to acknowledge that they might suffer from the condition ("Me? No, I'm a parent! I can't possibly have a problem! I can't afford to have a problem!! ! Stop looking at me like that!! !" --- [grin]]).

Since I never got a download about any of my grandparents (all gone by the time I was a teenager) I can't conjecture about that heredity. One uncle managed to kill himself in an automobile accident at a young age, and years later his son committed suicide after being brought up on charges of automotive manslaughter (wow, my family is pretty broken...).

My brother seems reasonably NT, though we don't communicate with each other so I'm really just guessing.

Anyway, I can only say that yeah, if there's a family history of mental illness then it seems likely that you're more prone to it. I would never make assumptions without a great deal of research and consultation with experts (where possible) though.

Nick

Same here.