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I notice when I am hanging out with my NT friends, theyr always wondering why I never get a woman.... Well when they ask, I explain that I am autistic, they fail to see how this makes it harder for me, even if I explain to them in detail how I am unable to recognize non-verbal cues. They'll often say something like "I never use them", but rather they know it or not, they do, sub-consciously, because it is how their brain is wired. Yet, then they get weirded out by my eccentricities or my inability to pick up on a gesture (which they had said they did not use lol).
I've figured NTs are hard for me to understand, especially female NTs. Not just because of my being Aspie, but also because of mutual misunderstanding and the fact that NTs do not understand themselves that well as a neuro-race. Before the autism rate picked up, there were no other neuro-races. And they've never had to learn a different neuro sociology. Most of them do not know anything about sociology because they've had no reason to study it, and I think with many it is just too much to comprehend.
I think neuro-diversity should be taught in schools from an early age (ie middle school and on), but in a way that is not condescending of aspies, (same goes for disabled people, it is high time we destroy the ableist stigma that surrounds disability and asperger, and work towards an equal platform acceptance of all of us, as human beings and to take our society away from the eugenics mind set where we are "defective" or "inferior", or "forever children").

Education is starting to happen, but the gears can be slow to turn.

My daughter attended an integrated nursery school almost a decade ago, and share a classroom with children who had all sorts of different needs. I remember in particular a little girl who was blind who was learning to read sign done in the palm of her hand, and a little boy who had downsyndrome. None of these children were treated any differently aside from the special considerations they needed. This experience shines through in my daughter, whom I have never seen taking age, race, appearance, or special needs into consideration when choosing her friends.

My friend has a 6 year old son with Aspergers, and despite her concerns about him attending full time school this year he was accomodated in a regular classroom with a full time EA for the benefit of him learning some social skills, and the rest of his classmates learning tolerance of his needs. I have been to pick him up and seen one of them calmly explaining to an older child that loud noises upset his friend, so it isnt nice to make them.

I'm not saying its a perfect system yet, but changes are being made. Its up to those who understand to educate those who don't, whoever they may be.

snake321,

MAN are you right. TWICE people tried to push me into approaching women I would NEVER be interested in. At least twice people thought I was homosexual. HECK, one woman HERE made jokes about how I must be ugly or gay. ALL simply because of my apparent inaction. It is almost like saying I am immortal because I haven't died. Well, I am VERY straight. Even today I saw two women at the mall that I would have liked to have at least said hi to. I wish I knew what to do in such cases. Oh well, they were BOTH probably in their 20s, and I would want the age to be closer, so it probably wasn't a great idea anyway.

There are SO many things to consider. 8-(