am I ignoring moral values?

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Once upon a time there was a boy who looked after the goats. He was a foxy boy who liked to play tricks on others. While he was on the field looking after the goats, he felt bored so he screamed "Wolf, wolf, help me". He was very happy to see all the villagers coming out with cubs on their hands to help fighting the wolves away. The villagers, however, were very angry because they were cheated. But the boy continued his game some more times so the villagers got even more angry. One day, the real wolves came and attacked the goats. The boy was scared, he screamed for help but this time, no one came to help him.

The lesson from the story is so obvious, do not lie and play bad tricks on others, and belief is someting that you should value.

I am wondering whether I am in the same situation as the boy in the story. There are three things I regret now. First, I didn't let my friends know when I was in real difficulties. I often screamed and complained with them about everything, but when I was in real difficulties, I didn't say a word. I was in a very down time a few months ago, but my friends didn't know until recently, I shared it on my blog (after I have recovered from the depression). For example, today I quoted an interesting line from my favorite song on my yahoo status, my new friend came and asked me what was wrong with me. I explained that it was just the lyric, not my real mood. So, similarly, when I would be really down, they wouldn't even know that I was to help me. Am I making the same mistakes as the boy by playing such a cruel joke? Or did I misread the message from the story. Next, I regretted I rejected a boy so frankly. I am not sure if he was really, deeply interested in me and wanted to have a serious relationship with me or not. But when he showed friendly actions towards me, I just kept running away from him and pushing him away. Now thinking back, I think he was just so nice and I was so unreasonable to do so. The third thing is that I was so disorganized in my job, which caused inconvenience to my clients.

Cheers and best,

I used to do that a lot. I often look angry even when I'm happy, or stressed when I'm calmly thinking about something, I even smile when I am overwhelmed sometimes. NT's rely on these social cues to tell them how people are feeling, they learn to ignore the words people are using in favor of the expression on thier face.

I have to be very careful, and make sure the people around me know that they have to take what I am saying as the truth, that if I am saying I am ok then I am really ok.

I think you have an obligation to yourself to be honest with your friends, and I think that the question you asked today is the first step to accomplishing that. Its not easy, but eventually people learn to ask instead of assume, and to take what you are saying at face value.

Realizing that there is a problem is the first step towards fixing it.

When it comes down to wellbeing you might have to beg, borrow or steal.

Moral stories are never completely one way or at least they are false if they claim to be. Everything is relative.

Conscientiousness works better than absolutism as a moral guide.

I alays felt like that too... that I'd be crying wolf. Eventually I thought, "f**k them if they think I'm doing that. There are people who want to, can and will help me." I rarely get accused of crying wolf. And I never get accused of doing it on purpose. :S