Years ago, talking to a tharipist, I used to phrase "failure to thrive." I was very sad about my life and I didn't know what to talk about or how to talk about it and I said, "The phrase 'failure to thrive' comes to mind."
He said, "Failure to thrive occures when there's a lack of physiological or psychological nurturing. If no one else is providing you with the physiological or psychological nurturing that you need, then you'll have to provide it for yourself."
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"The cordial quality of pear or plum
Rises as gladly in the single tree
As in the whole orchards resonant with bees."
- Emerson