Do you talk like you post?

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In posts, most of you seem to be clear and intelligent. Are you like this when you speak in real life as well?

In real life, I am rarely clear when I speak. I stop, backtrack, and am always saying, "Oh, that reminds me..." and spinning off to another point, while people give me confused stares. This is when my mind is really going.

Other times I freeze up and can only think in the simplest of terms. At these times - when I am very nervous - my brain refuses to grasp abstract concepts, and I can't think of a single intelligent word to add to a sentence.

Only when I talk about a special interest with people I trust does my IQ seem to skyrocket, and I magically become articulate. In posts, I feel I am not always as clear as I could be, but at least I have time to think of what I want to say. And yet still I ramble...

Sometimes in real life I don't talk very much at all, at work I am pretty monosyllabic. When I do get talking, I'm a stereotype of people with aspergers being over formal. In my last job I was told to restrict my vocabulary because people didn't understand what I was talking about.

I don't talk like I post. I lose my train of thought a lot when I'm talking or just can't think of what to say unless it's about my interests.

I think I am more the opposite, I post like I talk.

I am more sociable when talking.

Tim

I am far more articulate in writing than I am when I am talking although, if I am not stressed, I speak intelligently. Also, when I speak on a subject of interest, I do well. Fortunately, I have a wide range of interests.

Depends on what I'm hearing from the other side. Whining, short-temperedness, crassness, arrogance, beaurocracy will set my rage cogs in motion and I will go irrational - more times than not. Writing things out of course is so much easier, it's not as immediate and you can edit your thoughts. Speech doesn't allow that, alas.

In posts, most of you seem to be clear and intelligent. Are you like this when you speak in real life as well?

In real life, I am rarely clear when I speak. I stop, backtrack, and am always saying, "Oh, that reminds me..." and spinning off to another point, while people give me confused stares. This is when my mind is really going.

Other times I freeze up and can only think in the simplest of terms. At these times - when I am very nervous - my brain refuses to grasp abstract concepts, and I can't think of a single intelligent word to add to a sentence.

Only when I talk about a special interest with people I trust does my IQ seem to skyrocket, and I magically become articulate. In posts, I feel I am not always as clear as I could be, but at least I have time to think of what I want to say. And yet still I ramble...

In a new social situation, or in a group situation, anxiety overwhelms my ability to talk. I think that I compensate for this by having a large and precise vocabulary - at least then I can draw on words when I'm feeling blank and scared. This may be why I write well, too. As a child, teachers described my writing as almost professorial in its style. I wasn't diagnosed and I'm now an adult (well, at least chronologically) and still not formally diagnosed.

I have somehow survived, in part by avoiding social situations and in part by learning that in a social situation when I can't talk, all I need do is smile reassuringly and then take on the role of listener, which is always appreciated. The trouble with that is that my attention very quickly leaves the room and goes wandering elsewhere, even though my body is still present. When this happens, and I sense a quietness because a question has been asked of me, I am simply honest and say "I'm sorry, I might look like I'm here, but I'm not really. What did you just say". For some reason, that honesty endears people to me and they don't become angry. I at least try to listen for as long as I can. I'm not purposefully drifting off into another dimension, and I really do care. I'm not being a snob, and I think that people sense that.

I talk like I post

I'm much clearer, and far more articulate, when I write. I have a difficult time gauging audience when I speak -- I never know when I've said too much or not enough, to be honest. So, I rotate between bouts of being super silent and super talkative, and I often feel like I'm monologuing at people rather than dialoguing with them.

I do know that, like many of you all, if the conversation subject interests me, I keep rambling on, and I do sound intelligent (at least, I think I do). If I'm not interested, I plain just don't know what to say, and, consequently, I say little or nothing at all. Sometimes, this has to do with processing: I want to say something, and I'm possibly even interested in the topic at hand, but my brain doesn't deliver words or ideas to my mouth fast enough, so all I can do is mumble.

am a lot more competent with text talking than with verbal talking.
am often treated like a ret*d due to speech,due to the pronoun problem,main use of echolilia or nvism,it's strange,some people automatically see the lack of speech at the time they were speaking to-as a reason to underestimate,yet with fully vocal autists they can be overestimated.
Speech shouldn't be used as a guess for intelligence.
have been told am sound like a southerner,due to saying words like southerners do-speaking words clearly?,am know this is quite common to auties,and aspies,and it's the same with every autist [from lf kanner,up to aspie] have ever lived with.

mobile phone text/computer/pda text are some of the most underrated and most helpful inventions ever.

I used to have the problem of being far more articulate in my postings. But I started making a conscious effort of turning my thoughts into voice, and projecting that.

Now, my typing voice and literal voice are one in the same.

About parentheses I find myself doing that, not with everybody , just those I feel VERY "at home" with. And yes it drives me mad too if they break in just as I'm turning a critical corner in a parenthese !!I "draw" quotation marks in the air quite often too. But don't know how to do brackets!!
And if I'm interrupted like that I have to go back right to the beginning and that can be quite a long way back!
My family has said that I talk far too fast,( though that may be because they are slightly or very aspie too ! !)
But that varies too , sometimes I am very slow.
On paper/online it's great , cos can correct and weigh up , and restate etc etc. How I talk to the people who know and for some reason appreciate me!

With most other people I just say the minimum. The "nicenesses". I too avoid talking to people cos of the risk of conflict ; the ideas people have ; how am i supposed to respond honestly to them without having huge argument?!
VERY occasionally manage auto-pilot burble-exchanges like I taught myself to do as "girl" cos it seemed so essential. Total ball-bearing-engine oil-SYRUP!!
Hardly talk to anyone most days other than my son, and his papa when he's there weekends!

I think I've become more obviously aspie again since my breakdown really, in the way I talk as well as dress etc etc, because NT behaviour, "passing" , doesn't seem so important to me, as in my late teens and twenties.( when I used to spend huge amounts of energy , and alcohol , "doing" it .)

Not exactly, but I think it's pretty close.

The way I talk reflects a lot of nervous energy around people I don't know well. Then I hate myself after the interactions for not being less manic. However, sometimes some good conversations happen if my temperament is compatable with the others.

Once I was in the middle of two very geeky guys on a full plane. They didn't know each other, weren't talking, just a grunt here and there. Their companies were both sending them to some engineering support projects. I, on the other hand, was very nervous because planes do that and felt nervous about being packed into a seat between two people. So I did my nervous talking. Fortunately I can make a lot of jokes on the fly which often saves me.

Bottom line, by the end of the flight, the two geeks were talking and laughing and the flight attendants started hanging around us. I think they were both guys who feel self conscious about not being able to converse well and I was their catalyst to feel confident.

When the flight ended, I do what I usually do, head to the flight attendant's area because I will panic if I stand with that crowded unmoving line with the air turned off before the plane exits. When I turned around, the two guys were there with me, still in a happy, talky mood and eager to continue socializing wth each other, the flight attendants and me.