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19 Aug 2005, 1:22 pm

Hello!

I have 23 y and OCD, but because i didn't had any girlfriend in my life i think i may have AS.

I desperately want to have sex and girls like others but i'm shy, i have cluster c personality problems.
I can communicate with peoples excellent, i just feel blocked myself.

Can that be because of OCD or???
I feel out-of -sync all the time, i am gifted and i am different, here in Croatia i don't have too many choiches in life....
I'm also dyslexic...
Sometimes i feel myself to not good enough to have girl, feel inferior...

Hope to someone will help me.

Nice Weekend to all!



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19 Aug 2005, 3:45 pm

welcome to wrongplanet, Gifted.

have a look in the "romantic relationships" forum, to see if there's anything which sounds helpful to you.

in fact, there's loads here on every forum - good hunting! :)



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19 Aug 2005, 5:47 pm

gifted wrote:
i have cluster c personality problems.
I can communicate with peoples excellent, i just feel blocked myself.


Hmmm? What is cluster C personality?

Hmmm? Vetivert has the right idea. there is a forum on
romatic relationships. Hmmmm? me thinks/........



hmmmm? Even if you had a date! what would be you do not
go areas. I am quite sure the other person would like to know.


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19 Aug 2005, 6:55 pm

Uhm... I dont think you are gonna "get" a girl if thats your attitude towards it. Maybe you could put it in other words cause to me it just sounds offensive, and makes me feel uncomfortable. "I want friends" maybe.....................



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19 Aug 2005, 11:49 pm

If you want books, go to the library.
If you want food, go to the supermarket.


And if you want sex, go to a prostitute.

I find it offensive to that you're wanting to take out your desperations on a girl like they mean nothing.



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20 Aug 2005, 12:32 am

Oh like sex isnt a big part of any other relationship. Give the guy a break. He is just like most other people in that he wants sex and a relationship.



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20 Aug 2005, 1:55 am

i agree with eamonn - be nice, eh?

but they have a point, gifted - might be better to start with friends and build on it, rather than sounding as though you just want sex.



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20 Aug 2005, 5:16 am

No, i don't have just sex.
You misunderstood me...



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20 Aug 2005, 5:59 am

don't panic - we all misinterpret stuff at times. can you explain what you mean more, Gifted? there are many people here who will support you :)



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20 Aug 2005, 10:13 am

First at all, i dont go out, and i dont have a "guts" to first access to any girl, i have obsessive compulsive personality traits and that makes things complicated.

Oh yes, one important thing!

The peoples who make diagnosis often are wrong!
Peoples are not things to clasifiy it with diagnoses...if everyone of us read on disorders then may everyone find something of every disorder!

Do you understand me?
AS is still a undiscovered too little.

Bye!

P.S.

Why aspies hardly makes friends?



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20 Aug 2005, 10:48 am

I'm dx'd OCD and AS, and I know what you mean. It's tough, but be friends first. I have plenty of female friends, but I don't like anyone right now, so I don't plan on asking any out. Just don't be so down, sad people are no fun to be around.


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20 Aug 2005, 4:51 pm

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Why do aspies hardly make friends?


Sorry, I felt the irresistable urge to correct some English there, so I did. One thing about being an aspie is that it's harder for us to instintively pick up on social customs and practices than NTs. I've taught many of these by careful observation and imitation from when I was young. Basically, I picked up on these things both scientifically at first, then it started to become more natural, even though it's still pretty awkward.

Aspies can make friends and many do. For more discussion on the friends, you'd better go visit the "Friendship and General Social Interaction" forum. There is a lot of information and many discussions going on over there about friends. For romantic discussion, head over to the "Romantic Relationships" forum, also linked from the left-hand side bar that appears on all the pages.

About AS, there are several discussions around the forums concerning what AS really is and what it is not. You can find more information in another thread that is already established, or if you cannot find what you are looking for, feel free to ask. AS seems to involve a lack of social skills as one of the main traits, though there are many other traits that are involved. The Center for Disease Control and Prevention (http://www.cdc.gov/) has some a decent fact sheet about autism if you search for it.

Sarcastic_Name, I'm pretty much the same way as you. I have plenty of guy friends, but we're just friends. Either that or lab partners for science class. I don't really like anyone, not anymore, that is.


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21 Aug 2005, 7:47 am

Hi Gifted,
you remind me. I dream about succesfull relationship with a girl since 16 (now i am 24). And i have C cluster disorders too.
I've been in croatia - wonderfull nature, woman too. I understand how its hard to be lonely. I cannot give advice since I hadn't happy friendship.



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21 Aug 2005, 11:45 am

hale_bopp wrote:
If you want books, go to the library.
If you want food, go to the supermarket.
And if you want sex, go to a prostitute.
I find it offensive to that you're wanting to take out your desperations on a girl like they mean nothing.

I agree with hale_bopp. You should not take out your frustration on a nice, sweet girl who sincerely enjoys your company. I have no moral qualms about hiring an escort in a situation like yours; I'd much rather spend a large sum than hurt a nice person. At the very least, you'll be with someone who gets paid for "helping" people in your situation. No broken hearts, no hurt feelings, just two people getting what they want (you get satisfaction, she gets cash). I've made a post called "Escorts" in the Mature forum; check it out for more info on this topic.



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21 Aug 2005, 1:34 pm

Aspie1 wrote:
...on a nice, sweet girl who sincerely enjoys your company...

Well, perhaps you've had a sheltered upbringing Aspie1. You know, some girls actually want sex... and lots of it! They can seem very sweet and innocent, too — looks can be deceiving.



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21 Aug 2005, 6:06 pm

ascan wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
...on a nice, sweet girl who sincerely enjoys your company...

Well, perhaps you've had a sheltered upbringing Aspie1. You know, some girls actually want sex... and lots of it! They can seem very sweet and innocent, too — looks can be deceiving.

Oh, I know that. When I said "take out your frustrations", I meant by being mean to the girl. I was not referring to taking out frustrations in a sexual way.