I feel stupid a lot

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Does anyone ever feel like they're stupid and would (or has) struggled in school/college but at the same time, you feel like you could be really smart?

I feel like I'm stupid. I struggled somewhat in high school but at the same time, I did pretty well. I feel like my brain is foggy and that thinking is too exhausting. Sometimes I feel like my brain has gone on vacation. But when I'm in the mood (when my brain is clear), I can be smart and I like that.

The online IQ tests I took say that I have a slightly above average IQ. I believe that's true, but that on most days my brain just isn't working.

I find that all of this is discouraging me from going to college. I'm considering pursuing a Bachelor's degree in Information Technology, but I'm very worried that I won't be able to pass some of my classes because my brain will be on vacation. I'm also worried that I won't be able to retain the information that I've learned as this has been a problem in the past. I'm afraid I'm going to end up spending the rest of my life making $20,000 a year in a grocery store and living with my parents. This is a serious problem for me.

Has anyone else had this problem?

I would recommend you to go to a psychologist and have some tests done (if you havenn't done it yet). Online tests cant be trusted, they are not well dont so dont believe anything they say.

Information technology is mostly about cognitive skills, so it would be a good thing to think if you are good at math.
About the changes and the fogines, it seems to be related to another problem, maybe emotional. If you can do things once, you are not stupid, theres just something tampering with your perfomance at times.

I highly recommend you to pursue your carreer, no matter what it seems. You dont lose anything by doing a year and seeing how well you do.

I have a well above average IQ but in scholl it really didn't show because of my difficulties socializing always made me really anxious so I performed poorly.

If the fogginess and absentmindedness are getting in the way of your achieving your desired goals, then you'd be wise to have this investigated. If - IF - the cause is previously-undiagnosed depression, for example, you're better off doing something about it now than suffering through the knock-on effects several decades later.

Yes, this sounds exactly like what I experience. Also, in a formal IQ test, I scored above average, but it doesn't really mean much to me.

It is a common misbelief that good in math means good in computers and vice/versa.

mj1,

Don't let poor math skills kill your desire to work at computers. ALSO, study YOURSELF! After THAT, you can decide if you want to pursue it in college.

My stupidity shows up when I am doing small tasks others consider easy. People would never believe I have a Master's in English and can perform so well at my job if they saw me doing things around the house.

The problem with the iq tests for me are that I am so horrible at math and science but great at all the other stuff.

U sound exactly like me i was quite smart n clever but at tyms i struggled at skool dis is because my social skills were not very good again above average IQ but it means nothin 2 me.

Why don't you go to the grammar thread? They will go nuts! I'm sure you are just kidding with the spelling(Especially since you have mentioned "above average IQ" at least 3 times) but, one of these days, it may not merely be an act.

If I am too blunt, chalk it up to AS!

I frequently feel stupid. I was doing 7th grade math in first grade, and according to my mother and father reading at the age of 2, but couldn't even tie my shoes until I was 9. The latter part made me feel like a complete and utter ret*d and it certainly didn't help that siblings relentlessly teased me for this and the fact that I was in some sort of special ed classes and I still can't get a clear answer about it from my parents.

Just recently, I was at my friend's house and he was trying to set a fishing pole up. One of his lures got caught in the couch, and I started to patiently get it un-stuck from the couch. After about 3 minutes, he then told me to "Rip it out of there already", and of course I took his request literally, and got it very deeply snagged into the couch as a result. He had to cut it out with a knife. He then kept calling me stupid because that is not what he meant. The argument ended though and we both relaxed on the couch with some MJ.

In college, two fellow students did mock me for the way I talked, but I never took it seriously. I don't think they meant anything by it. But do I feel stupid about the way I sound? Yes.

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Yes, sometimes I feel stupid, but when you're in the middle of dribbling imbeciles, it doesn't really matter.

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This pretty well describes me. My IQ measures well above average, but my eucational career thus far has been very sporadic, (definately more off than on.) I find math and science fascinating, but I'm terrible at those subjects in the classroom. Over the years I've learned that I fall at that place on the spectrum where I have horrible problems with depression, ADD, strong OCD affect, anxiety, etc. Medicine and therapy have helped some, but I still struggle quite a bit. Sleepless168's suggestion about seeking an evaluation from a psychologist is a good one. My difficulties can't be cured at this point in time, but I am slowly but surely learning how to manage them. If you want to go to school, then start slowly and gradually. Go part-time at first and ease your way into it. If part-time is all you can handle, so be it. There's no shame in that! Also, most universities these days have a special office set up to help students who need reasonable accomodations to help them with their classwork. I am allowed to have extra time on tests and a seperate space outside the classroom to take the tests amongst other accomodations. There is a student counseling center to help you as well. Bottom line: You are intelligent; never let circumstances force you to give up your dreams.

This is how I feel too. But bare in mind that not all IQ tests are valid, especially internet ones. Don't let a lack of confidence in yourself get in the way of what you want to do; you might be amazed at what you're capable of.

Don't feel bad... in administered IQ tests, I've tested so far beyond normal that they can't adequately give me a number only say that it is in excess of 190. But, I've been kicked out of college 3 times because I can't cope with the social stress involved. If someone would sign me up for classes, take care of all the paper work, and just let me read the books and take the tests I'd do just fine.

As for Math vs. IT... unless your planning on programming some very odd stuff... it's really not all the important. If you understand algebra and basic math skills you'll be just fine. I've been in the IT field for almost 20 years and my times needing to know my calculus or differential equations have been almost non-existent.

As for feeling stupid... I get that all the time. I'll think, hey I should be able to do this...but then realize that not only don't I know how but I don't even know where to start or start finding out where to start. It's very frustrating. I think this happens to many people though, not just aspies. We all feel stupid now and then.

I feel stupid when I am hanging around certain types of NTs...because I am on such a different wavelength from them that when I speak them...the most active part of my brain simply does not apply to them so I am only able to force the most simplistic babbling...part of it has to do with stress and tension I feel being around them...i just can't break through the barrier. An example would be some of Flakey's family and other "normal" adults...who i don't know very well....and who don't really know me.

In school, i never did very well, but my standardised test scores were really high, so I made it into GT classes, where I got teased for being dumb.

Over the years I have more-or-less been able to accept the fact that my mind just works differently from others...i am not stupid..i just have a different kind of intelligence.