UnfoldedCranes wrote:
In my experience, depression makes it easy to find reasons to be unhappy (and "unhappiness" can take many miserable forms -- "mental anguish" is certainly one of them.) Since my "reasons" for feeling unhappy weren't particularly good reasons -- which is to say, none of them were really that bad -- I knew, intellectually, that I was unhappy because I was depressed. But it felt like it was because of the "bad things" in my life. If the "bad things" had been worse, I might have thought I was having a normal emotional reaction, and questioned whether I was depressed. But there are a lot of people who experience all kinds of tragedy and horror, who recover and feel normal most of the time. I think if your usual emotional state is mental anguish or sadness or pain, then you must be depressed.
What medications have you tried? Even the drugs that supposedly have the same mechanism, like SSRIs, can have different effects. Also, have you considered something like cognitive-behavioral therapy?
What you say makes sense. But what if the experiences have ongoing lasting tangible negative effects. It seems reasonable for me to be unhappy.