this is such a difficult issue. i don't think i'd want to be cured (how would i know? - i have no idea what it's like not to be me), and i know people here say the same thing. but i have long known that parents of severely autistic children feel otherwise. and i'm so glad that litguy has expressed how he feels about this.
i've worked with severely autistic children and young adults, and i'm thinking of one 16 year old boy at the moment. he spent all day pacing up and down and taking off his clothes (this is in a school). his only way of expressing anything was to punch. he was a strapping lad, and his mother was small in comparison. every so often, he was taken into respite care, so she could recover from the physical damamge he was inflicting on her, not because he was violent in anger, necessarily, but because punching was his ONLY mode of expression - of fear, of joy, of love, whatever. she loved him to distraction, and refused to allow him to be taken into care on a permanent basis. and she worried constantly about what was going to happen when she was no longer able to meet his needs, through age, as he is going to need supervision for ever,
would i condemn this woman if she wanted a cure for her son? no, i wouldn't. do i condemn litguy? no, i don't.
i believe that i can say i don't want to be cured, and i can agree with people here who say the same thing. it's because we are able say those things that this is a moral dilemma. we function enough so that we are communicating on here, at least, no matter what other difficulties we have. how do we know if the boy i described would like to change things? how do we know he wouldn't? we can't, and so someone else is responsible for making those decisions. i wouldn't like to be in that position of responsiblity.
i still can't say i'm totally in favour of a cure, or totally against it. it needs to be considered in the light of individual circumstances. and i also support parents on here who do not wish their children to be cured. it's their decision, and they are the ones responsible.
as for the chelation issue - it sounds dodgy to me.