Social Boundaries

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Anyone have a reference to the whole issue of leaky or inappropriate social boundaries with respect to aspies or any other disorder?
I didn't think this was an issue with me but now a professor has lodged a complaint because I asked her to review my paper though I don't feel that she would have done this if she hadn't known I had a "label". I could understand this if I had been harassing her or emailing every day but I only asked her a few times since she was my advisor so I'm kind of at a loss for words...

why would they lodge a complaint? The easy thing would've been to say "I'm sorry....I can't....or I don't have time....?"

You'd think so. Apparently she thought it was a symptom of something.

Do you think she is afraid of you?

Don't think so but not sure if that's part of it. Our contact has been only over email for the last month or so which everyone seems more direct online. I guess it'd just be easier to drop her as an advisor since she's obviously not going to help me in my research but I guess I obviously need to find out the norms of the department and maybe register with the disability students office though not sure if that'd be helpful...

1. With whom did your professor lodge the complaint?
2. What was the nature of the complaint?
3. How do you know that she lodged a complaint against you?
4. Is asking a professor to revue a paper inappropriate or against the rules?
5. When You asked her to revue was it face to face or written request?
6. Did she reply to you at any time before filing complaint?

She sent it to some students services person who sent me some kind of summons since I now have a block on registration until it's cleared up--he was decent enough to read the whole letter to me since I didn't get a copy and I don't think the block will be a problem but I'm still worried about dealing with the professor in the future. As a graduate student I don't feel like asking a professor to review a paper is at all inappropriate and it is definitely not breaking any rules. She had responded to me via email about not having time so I didn't think it was such a big deal and didn't press it. Ironically if she had spent the time she put into writing the letter into reading my paper she would have had time to spare and understood where I was coming from with my research on autism rights and psychiatric survivors movements though I think the topic is part of what made her uncomfortable. Getting back to the original question, the whole "social boundaries" thing seems kind of subjective and in this case I felt like I was being blamed for someone else's shortcomings.

I think so too, MC. It sounds to me, after reading your response to my questions, that you are being taken advantage of in this situation. Can you get someone else to revue your paper. I would avoid any unnecessary contact with this professor and I would advise you to ask for a new advisor.

Well I actually submitted the paper a month and a half ago after letting a few other people looking over it. Still no word on if it's been accepted or not. With such a small department, it'll be hard to avoid the prof, but I'll try...thanks!