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I'm so bored of everything. Nothing I do is any fun anymore. I don't understand why though. It's not like I have any real depression. I don't feel sad. I don't really feel anything and I think they way I am must have something to do with having AS so I decided to try here. I don't work at the moment but I'm looking to start again soon. I've been out of work for 5 years because I had clinical depression in the past and extreme anxiety condition but I've managed to overcome my anxiety to an extent that it no longer stops me doing normal everyday things. It's still there a little but I am coping with it. I feel I'm ready to start looking for work soon or contemplating a college course which is a situation I will be anxious in. Things are going quite well really with being able to control anxiety in social situations so I should be looking forward to moving on in life but I am finding it impossible to get motivated and am really having to force myself along. I used to really enjoy computers and playing online games but now even when I get a top rated brand new game I am bored with it almost instantly. I know I can't have a serious depression. I've been much worse than this but I just can't seem to get excited about anything. I heard that people with AS need some sort of focus but I don't really know what this means. Does anyone know any techniques or things I can try in my day to help myself get more motivated and enjoy the things I have. I feel like a robot. I just seem to have lost my emotions all together. I would rather be sad 90% of the time if I could just experience some sort of excitment in my life for 10%.

I read your post. By parallel, I can go for many hours at a time, regularly, without feeling an emotion. I am just deeply entranced/focused. I would never say this to a NT since this would not really be conceivable to them. But it's still true. Of course, I do not know the ratio of 'feeling' to 'not feeling.' I think feelings are different from emotions, btw. I have some emotions (I think) but they are rudimentary. I think I can name, maybe, 4 emotions that exist for me....unsure. Speculative: 1) Love, 2) Frustrated/Perplexed/Confused (that counts as one emotion for me) 3) Curiousness 4) umm...no word. Maybe delete #4.

Vensin, can you FORCE yourself into just one interest, even if it is not especially compelling initially? By this I mean give yourself an assignment, like homework. Just choose one that seems even remotely interesting. Next, go to an event/exhibit/library, etc where that topic exists. Study. Write, draw. I think this should catalyze an obsession for you! Recall, our kind are inclinded this way - you can do it. Maybe you've just come to a void for unknown reason(s).

An Aspie without an obsessive passion is like a day without orange juice. Did I say that right? Oh, a schedule is immensely helpful or I/you disintegrate. We are marginally cybernetic anyway; I do not see this as a problem. Just don't get rusty.

Induce fun!

I definately need something to keep me busy and work towards. It seems that the less I do- the less I want to do and the more fed up I get. I need to change this. I'll have a think about what I would like to focus on.

I don't like orange juice.

I too have no interests or hobbies. I'd like some, but just can't seem to care about anything enough to bother. No, I'm not depressed, I just don't see the point.

Now that's just pessimistic. You must like something - I know you do! Find something or invent it. You must or you'll lose motivation; a cyclical process. Everyone needs, you'll just need to find your niche.

If you don't like orange juice then you may have another beverage of your choice. I am not a stewardess with a tray of refreshments; help yourself

Science matters! Find your passion and make it your expertise. In this way you can make a difference!

No, that's reality. Even the things I used to do, I just can't do anymore. I guess I burned out or something. I wish you were right, I really do, but I've been trying for years to come up with anything at all and can't.
I think my former living situation may be to blame, or maybe I would have turned out this way regardless. It doesn't really matter which, the result is the same.
Not everybody has obsessive intrests, or even hobbies.

I feel like I don't like my hobbies anymore. Everything has become meaningless.

I love how some people can have every single symptom of depression, then angrily snap back, "I'M NOT DEPRESSED!!"

I see that a lot....

I start feeling that way sometimes (or at least a milder version) when I don't have an obsession to focus on. I'm not sure how to make it go away though. Lately I haven't really had a focus, so I've been trying to enjoy stuff without looking for or expecting a strong interest, and it seems to be working well, but I'm not sure if there's an actual process to how I've been approaching it, or if it can be put into words.