my horrific night...

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i was moonlighting, playing keys in another band...it wasn't working, my musical style wasn't fitting and so i decided to leave amicably, even talking to multiple counsellors to make sure, objectively, i was being nice and not in the wrong, not an egomaniac, not unreasonable...so yeah, after weeks of building tension and abuse, merely a few days from my final gig, i finally snapped and called the drummer a c*** (male chicken) and then he smacked me several times in the head.

the awkward thing is that one of the guitarists is in elmo sexwhistle (my main band) with me and he's not really seeing sense at the moment, and we've been working together over 6 years, it's scary!

sigh, humans, lol x

Sorry to hear that...

I know all about band fights...been in plenty...

lots of good luck xanderbeanz. I hope the issue with the guy in your main band can be resolved and you can continue to work together.
Wow - sounds like a scenario out of my life (whenever i have worked with others...which these days is never, never........)

At least your bandmates (I hope) don't "sleep" with 15 year old groupies in the car park after the set and tell you to stick your boobs out more on stage!

I really wish you well. It isn't easy but it's worth it.

Aww that sucks Xanderbeanz. I know how awful it can be when that sort of thing happens. I used to end up in the same position in drama groups, and I never figured out why. I've always wanted to be in a band, and write my original music for a band, but was in one for the first time (just for a singular competition) where pretty much everyone there was very supportive of me, and some really close friends were in the band too, and yet I felt I had to fight an uphill battle for every song I was allowed to sing (we had 3 singers), and I also felt like there was a lot of tension between me and the band; probably because I had different taste in music to everyone else there. All in all it was a highly stressful (although the performance made it all worthwhile) experience for me.

I think a band environment could be very hard on an aspie, and I admire both you and Poopylungstuffing that you manage to play with bands as a career.

I feel for you. I'm wondering, most people seem to be better making themselves perform even when their heart's not in it. Not just music but in all aspects of life. It so draining for me to have to go through motions just to please other people. It's not just selfishness because mental hang-up is so strong that I can't possibly force myself to do something I don't feel like doing.

thanks for the kind words folks...i'm meeting with my band member 2moro to try and sort this all out...i think that it would be an awful shame if he walked away after 7 years of working together...but alas, good guitarists are pretty easy to find so all hope is not lost if he does.

i think in this case me being an aspie had nothing to do with it and that these people just have a complete lack of respect, oh well, i met some cool people out of the endeavour, such as my bassist, and several good friends.x

Hey, that's what you can get if you call people names. Best to be cordial, as you might just say the wrong thing to the wrong person someday, and getting smacked a few times will be the least of your problems.

A useful lesson.

i think i was perfectly in the right in calling that person a name, the abuse and disrespect had been mounting up for weeks...x