Do you have a haven in your home or elsewhere?

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Have you done this? What is yours like if you may share with us?

We were doing construction on our house, which was bothersome since everything is different now... even my door moved. But i talked the guy doing our house to boarding up my closet and making a three foot high enterance. Now i have a small room about four foot by seven, and I am going to turn it into a minihaven/panic room/happy place. Basically somewhere filled with everything that calms me.

I really have no idea what to call it. Do you have one?

ooooh, sweeeet!

No, no haven here. Well sort of on a tiny scale. The arraingment of book cases on 2 sides of my sleeping (I cant really call it a bed, more like a horrid jumble of blankets on the floor) spot gives me the library/den feeling I need to keep a balance in general.

Yes! I coined the term "shrewy tree" for this kind of area. (This is due to my habit of pretending to be a small furry animal that lives in a tree when I'm very stressed out.) It's always a small, enclosed, very plain space. Big enough to be comfortable, but no bigger. Nobody speaks to me when I'm in there. Sometimes I'll take a nice book about paleontology in there. At the moment I have a children's tent (£5 from Ikea) but I've just ordered one of these:

http://www.outdoortoysdirect.co.uk/Wood ... -Playhouse

I can't wait for it to arrive!

Basically the whole house is my haven...I try to fill it with things that make me feel good or that are calming.

I've always wanted a secret room though...that sounds so cool!

It would be under my bed if I could fit my head under it (I think there's too many monsters in my head)....

Lying upon the mat on my floor suffices when I'm feeling blah.

I have wished for one ever since reading SARK's books. She is a creative soul that has had many struggles in her life and speaks of ways to enjoy being the inner child, etc. She has a shed-like room (if memory serves) and well, I want one too! Either that or one of those mini houses we were posting about in the random discussion forum!

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt53765.html

I think what you have done is cool:)

One of the few requests we got from my daughter for Christmas this year was a "hideaway space", so Santa delievered!

We removed the desk etc from under her loft bed, put up dark curtains all around the bed and closed it off from the rest of the world. We bought squishy pillows, squishy tactile "guys" with flashing lights, etc, she has put her favourite cuddle up chair in there, blankets, stuffed animals and a small desk for drawing/writing.... It is pretty amazing, really. Now she knows enough to take her "breaks" when she needs them and hides away under there

Much better than the small little corner of the closet we continuously found her squashed into when overwhelmed!

I want a room too!

Yes I do. I call it the cave, it comes with cave paintings for the wall. It's a place for the clutter to not be touched, my computers and any ol shiny's I happen to be immersed in and the light can be controled to the nth degree. It is in the process (slowly, I'm a hell of a procrastinator) of being redone. It needs painted a more soothing color and cat walks to be put in. I feel peaceful in a contained, controlled area or should say a bit more so. It's a rather small room, but I think I can fit a small place to sleep. For a long time I didn't create such a space for myself and did the "normal" thing one does when married. I realized that such a thing as sleeping in the same bed with another wasn't all that comfortable to me. Other things besides this but that, to most, might stand out as about the oddest. The stress relief was a good one and now when I do threaten to return to the big bed, the wife says no you won't. She has found it not such a bad arrangement as well. See the thing is, getting your head together with those you might share space with can be arranged to better suit all. That is one of the small blessings about just knowing about what makes me tick the way I do. It's much easier to explain to those that have a need to know, which aren't that many.

Oh and my sympathies, remodeling the house was a freakin nightmare from hell. I don't think it will ever get fully done. You just never really know how different tastes in things can be between someone you thought you knew so well. We didn't get divorced over it, but I think there should be divorce lawyers in home remodeling outlets. I just know they could get a good steady stream of remodelers.

My game room is hardly used by anyone but me. I decorated the whole room myself. I have cool, happy things everywhere. On the walls there are hats, clothes, pictures, paintings, posters, cups, etc. The shelves have videos, books, music, sculptures, toys, rocks, coins, etc. The floor is soft with lots of comfortable nooks. There is a padded rocking chair for relaxing and not being still. The light can be bright, or I can use the dimmer to make everything fade to shades of gray. I have TV and radio to play if I want.
My game room is a haven when I need it. I can sit and spend time with my pets, or play with my memorabilia, or play with my games, or read. My game room has what ever I need to relax and think when I need to be alone.

Heavenly haven topic

These are really great posts about concrete havens(not made literally out of cement). I have my bedroom right now but I will not as of next Freday due to my moving for financial reasons. I will be sharing a living room with a family member who put me up as a 'kindness'. I will, therefore, temporarily have to have a pivate haven only in the resesses of my thoughts and hope he does not bug me too much. My son and daughter will each have bedrooms, thank goodness.

Heavenly haven topic

These are really great posts about concrete havens(not made literally out of cement). I have my bedroom right now but I will not as of next Freday due to my moving for financial reasons. I will be sharing a living room with a family member who put me up as a 'kindness'. I will, therefore, temporarily have to have a pivate haven only in the resesses of my thoughts and hope he does not bug me too much. My son and daughter will each have bedrooms, thank goodness.

my havens are all inside of video games.

The Last labrynth in the original Zelda

The Brimhaven Dungeon in Runescape

Big Game Hunters in Starcraft

These are places with simple and concrete rules, familiar sounds, familiar patterns, and explicit actions required of me.

They are so very organizing, it is delicious.

My room is my haven.

My house is eight by fifteen feet. A haven.

My havens are:

Home
Work
My internet Siamese cat club

My office is my haven, here at work.
Home, not so much.

Last summer, my husband went out and bought a crapload of plywood and spent a whole day in the garage in secret. He built me a little "writing cube" with bench seating, a pull out keyboard shelf, bought me an LCD monitor and fixed up an old computer so I could go in there in the dark enclosed space, separate from any exterior activity and work on my book. He was prompted to do this by my complaining that I didn't have anywhere to "work" and he remembered how I'd gravitated toward the small outdoor utility closet on our first apartment's patio.

It even has a lock on the inside of it

When I was a kid, I used to make havens out of blankets and tables. I would do the same now, only my mother, who's pretty understanding all in all, would totally wig.