in a world that nobody understands you?

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I guess that's how I feel everyday. There is truly one person in this world that understood me...but because we tried to be fair to NTs, in our constant struggle to not be seen as evil,
we never were able to be together.

Do you know someone who did understand you?
What was/is your relationship?

With everything in my life, I have just emailed him. I know that is what will bring me peace.

I know what ur feeling, it sucks when nobody can understand you. I grew up with nobody understanding me except my oldest brother, he looked past what was wrong and saw me, his little baby sister, and loved me and accepted who i was. He got killed when he was 19 and half, and i was just about to turn 15. After that I didn't have anybody accept me, until recently, my boyfriend, hes complete NT, but has done soooo much to try to understand and accept me that it amazes me. So don't always give up, there are people out there, that do understand and actually care. If you ever need to vent, i'm always here to listen hehe!

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Being Normal Is Vastly Overrated

The only person who's ever understood my was my wonderful husband. I guess I'm complicated, I'm shy in real life, aggressive online, overly-empathetic, ect. Just about trait I have is contradicting to another. Still, he understands, sometimes it's scary, like he can read me with a glance.

Have you ever given thought that you don't understand the world?

Da only person understands me is my mum otherwise me sister, dad n other ppl fink dat iam makin excuses which is not true at all.

Since my son was ordered to go live with his sperm donor, we both are feeling lost and lonely in our respective worlds. When he was born, I immediately knew that I wasn't alone anymore. Now, he's the only AS kid in a house that punishes him for being AS and doesn't believe that he is and I'm the only AS kid in my house, with no one to help me recover from melt downs.

It sucks. It's an awful feeling most of the time. I just hope the court grows a brain and realises that he belongs in a home where he is understood and someone can deal with his melt downs and sensory tics.

I've relinquished hope in the idea that there's someone who can really understand me.

if nothing else, my James tries and what he doesn't understand, he simply accepts.

For this I am grateful.

What a world of freedom I been granted since finding this man!

There is hope yet...

Dude! Somebody understood me on the phone. I don't even know why that is.

One Person.

Lots and lots of people understand me. None of them like me, though.

Sure, I'm one of those inordinately complex people who requires much effort to be reasonably understood, and is very often completely misunderstood. It's a lonely place to be, particularly when I repeatedly think I've found someone who's able to get me, and then they say or do something that indicates they do not really get me at all; that hurts, quite a lot.

Right now, I'd count three people who've consistently demonstrated a much higher than average ability to understand me; one IRL best friend (who I do a terribly good job of completely ignoring for months at a time), and two friends in this place (though one of them is currently dissatisfied with me as a friend).

In general, I've often wondered to what extent anyone really can truly understand anyone else. Everyone has much more which they keep in their minds than is expressed thru their physical form. Perhaps autistics share certain innate differences which make them inherently difficult for "neurotypical" people to understand, or often even for other autistics to understand. But I've known many people who are almost certainly not autistic who also pine to be understood. I suspect this is just part of the human condition, one of the curses that comes along with having our big brains.

Good fortune,

- Icarus is an open book, but he's too long to read...

I spent a life time of me misunderstood, but that was before I was diagnosed and did not understand myself. Now at least I understand who I am, but truly feel no one else totally does...

But I do now have an Aspie community who mostly understand and I'm helping to educate others, because if we all do this maybe we can help eliminate, as much as possible the prejudgment and stigma before it happens.

Thanks to all for your courage to open up and let me know about you.

My husband tries to understand and is a good person, but never do I feel
totally understood. Maybe that's my bad, but I guess because I had a friend
who truly did, I compare to that.

I did write my friend, whom I haven't spoken to in a couple of years...
and his response brought me peace. It always does and not only because
he agrees with me always, but because he truly understands.

He took the time to write a lengthy email and address each
and every issue I presented to him. I know that my thoughts
in court next week will be of him and his words...and that
will bring me peace.

Besides my father and my friend next door, few others.

I don't think it's possible for someone to understand me.

I try to understand other people, if people don't seem to understand me. That way, I'm doing my part, while others refuse to do their part.