A guy on another site has a question about getting diagnosed

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02 Feb 2008, 12:12 am

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What about undiagnosed Autism in adults? I have a son-13 who is Autistic and my 4 year old Daughter is exactly like her brother at same age and we expect her to be diagnosed shortly...Now my point is this-Over the years specialists and therapists and a few people who have worked with autisim children and adults have said that I, there father, is somewhere within the Autistic spectrum. My ADHD and Anxiety disorders mask, or divert suspicion from a Dianosisi as Autistic..I am stunned every time I heard this..I did recognize certain behaviors my son has had over the years as similer to my own at same ages. If I am, how do I find out at the age of 37?..I feel responciable for "giving or making" my children autistic and almost wish they were never born..I love them dearly but I can't see any good in life as AUTISTIC....If I am Autistic my life has been a disaster and don't belive their lives will be any different......Again, who do I see and where do I go to find out if I Autistic????? I welcome any responce



Okay, the guy commenting on an ABC News article asked about getting a reliable diagnosis in the event that he is autistic like his children. I know it is a bit silly to be asking other people to answer still another person's question for me, but not only do I not know the answer to his actual question, I also do not feel emotionally qualified to address some of his other statements. The wishing his children were never born thing kind of freaks me out, you know...



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02 Feb 2008, 3:34 am

Clinical psychologist, psychiatrist or a neurologist.

It's common for parents of children with an ASD to exhibit the symptoms, just in a far lesser degree; getting married and having children is one of those things that rarely happens for someone with an ASD.



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02 Feb 2008, 3:41 am

Yeah, it drives me nuts when people assume someone else is better off dead than having to live with challenges. How about you let them decide for themselves how happy they will be as adults. No one should ever make a judgement like that in someone else's behalf. I know it's emotionally troubling for some people to hear their kid is autistic, but they need to suck it up, stop being such drama queens about it and love their kids anyway. Sadly if he's so determined his kids are going to be such miserable losers because of it, that may rub off on them (depending on how autistic they are). Sometimes I feel kind of bitter when people talk about how social and perfect and successful and popular their kids will be. So, what, if they turn out like me they are going to be unlovable and rejected even by their own parents? No one can know how their kids will turn out in the long run, much less control it. All well, I guess there will always be social perfectionists that will try anyway.

As for the question, I don't really know. He just seemed like a depressed shallow guy, but I don't know him so I can't really judge. I'm just too annoyed about how he reacted to his kids like they were burnt toast.