Have your Parents ever used Corpal punishment on 18year olds

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I failed to flush the toilet, so my mom got angry and threatened to slap me. I was so angry at her for threatening such a thing that i felt worthless. Anger at myself, I threw things. My mad mama was angry at me for throwing things. i was frustrated and needed to throw things. Throwing things help me relieve stress. So she got angry and gave me a whipping. I told her to strangle me if she felt the need to have to whip an 18 year old. I told her she should have never had me. I never stayed up past midnight on a school night, but I stayed awake til 3:30am throwing things, i was so angry. i contemplated waking up early at 5:30 to run away, stealing valuable china to throw and break, and even turning the stove on to burn the house down. How dare she treat me like a f*****g child? (Excuse me, I never curse, I'm just that mad). After the whipping I felt so worthless, that I hit myself with a metal purse, it left a bruise, it felt good to hurt the person who caused herself to get a whipping at 18. I made a resolution never to get any whippings once I was 10 yrs old, I broke a promise to myself. I feel like a sorry ass b***h, eventhough I understand I have Autism, which makes it hard to control my emotions. Autism or not, no one is supposed to get a beating at 18. I wish so badly to make my mother feel bad for what she did. If I ran away, i'll laugh while she cries worrying. I feel like i'm the only adult going through this. She had no damn right to put her damn hands on me. i am considered an adult. Someone please respond with the same concern. I fell alone in this.

Last edited by princess_1989 on 05 Feb 2008, 5:55 pm, edited 1 time in total.

how old are you? if you are 18 or over, they are no longer your legal guardian and this is considered assault (unless of course they felt their well-being was threatened by you, in which case they could claim self -defense. However, one cannot use force in defense of property, so otherwise it would still be illegal). If you are under 18, it depends on the law of your municipality. Where do you live, and how old are you? It all depends on that, and on whether your mother felt you were threatening her, as opposed to her property.

You've got to be kidding. When I was 18 I would have beat my mother's ass for even threatening such a thing. And I am NOT kidding.

If you are 18 you can have her legally charged with assault.

If you are under 18, in most areas she would be charged with child abuse. Whipping and paddling are no longer acceptable

not when I was 18 (I was bigger than they were..

Why does throwing things help? If you're going to do that, throw things that won't hurt anyone or anything. You may want to find a substitute that channels your frustrations in a less violent way. You are the way you are, but there's certainly going to be better options. Hope things work out.

Incorrect.

Nope, its correct. There is also a current movement to ban spanking in addition to whipping and paddling. The American Academy of Pediatrics is against any type of corporal discipline.

If you whip your kid and someone finds out about it, you will be investigated. If you spank your kid, you won't be investigated unless you leave a bruise.

The law is strictest in Minnesota

Last edited by Triangular_Trees on 02 Feb 2008, 6:22 pm, edited 2 times in total.

You could have your mother charged with assault, for what she did.

What do you mean by a whipping ? what is a whipping?

Whipping is just another term for spanking. Very rarely are whips involved.

I can't believe I still remember most of the details regarding Michael Fay.

I've only ever heard of whipping to involve hitting with something such as a belt. Wheras spanking involves hitting with a bare hand

Well, if it's the only punishment that works...
and my case, it was.

It means hitting with a belt, although some parents prefer telephone cables, which is still considered whipping. It's reports like these that make me think that a parenting license must be implemented ASAP. Interestingly, when I read the book Brave New World, where the concept of a family doesn't exist, and all humans are engineered in-vitro, I was somewhat intrigued, rather than appalled (like the author wanted the readers to be). But I'm digressing. Princess_1989, you are a victim of a CRIME. Next time your mother hits you, call the police! Make the call from a hidden spot, so no one can grab the phone away from you. Lock yourself in your room or the bathroom until they police arrive. When the cops enter your house, be very cooperative and polite, but make it clear that you're the victim.

I was spanked about 7 times for things *I* did not do! All before I was 8, but that was at my school. They LOVED doing that, and used a large wooden paddle.

Well so long as you threw your own things but if you still live in your parents house you do need to live by their rules. You get out on your own and throw your own things then its not an issue.

No you shouldn't have been getting a whipping, however...YOU SHOULDN'T BE THROWING THINGS EITHER.......ask for a punching bag, or something soft you can throw in your room that won't cause any damage. You don't want people imposing on you, you don't impose on anyone else. And if you don't stop this behavior you'll end up like a next door neighbor I use to have...he got mad he threw things, and made wholes in his walls, his landlord evicted him. It's a good thing he didn't accidently harm his children by throwing things, and it could happen. You need to find another way to vent your anger thats much safer and less intrusive. In my classroom when the little ones decide they are going to throw things it's promply stopped, and they learn not to. They throw toys and chairs other students can get hurt, they are escorted away from the other students untill they calm down, then they have to clean up what they threw, and these are little ones,under the age of 5. I don't know how old you are, but this pattern needs to stop, you are to old for this. You can find a safer way to vent......anyone here have advice for this? And as an 18 year old I hear your mom can get arrested, she can also have you arrested for vandalism. See......it can come back on you. Both of you should go into counseling together to find a way to cope with each other,understand each other and help each other. I remember when I was over 18 my mom tried the same with me, and I put my hands up and blocked her blows, and told her she was not going to hit me...period. And she didn't, but she told her friends I assaulted her. If I had, my father would have beaten me and tossed me out. I never hit her, and the fight wasn't even my fault...again, I would have been tossed out by my dad had it been.