Book recommendations for NT's married to AS

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soutthpaw
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05 May 2012, 8:55 am

I would like some good book recommendations for my wife to read so she can better understand me. I have AS so I am looking for books explaining adult AS and also how to have/ maintain successful AS relationships.. Also anything that explains stuff NT's do that make those with AS bat $hit crazy.. If its on kindle store that is even better
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05 May 2012, 9:24 am

You could try The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo by Steig Larsson. This has two perspectives within a developing relationship and explores the themes of mixed relationships you mention.

You get to see traits and patterns in each character and how they misunderstand the other's intentions because of the different ways in which they express themselves, and the different meanings they give to the other's actions.

It is a good read.

If I think of any other books like this I will let you know.



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05 May 2012, 10:43 am

My ex-wife bought "Aspergers in Love" by Maxine Aston. Of course, she divorced me anyway, but I read it and seems to show the problems of a 'mixed' marriage (or relationship) well



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05 May 2012, 2:22 pm

one book that is recommended for just about anyone that has some form of connection to aspergers syndrome (friends, parents, teachers, the aspie himself...) is "a complete guide to aspergers syndrome" by tony attwood



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05 May 2012, 2:40 pm

"Complete Guide"" has EVERYTHING



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05 May 2012, 5:42 pm

I would recommend this one:

22 Things a Woman Must Know if She Loves a Man with Asperger's Syndrome

I haven't read the book, as I'm in the opposite situation (AS female, NT boyfriend), but my boyfriend of 4 years read the counterpart to this book, for men dating or married to an AS woman, and he really related to it. I've read some of it myself, and it seems really accurate.


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05 May 2012, 7:25 pm

thanks for the recommendations, I will go check those out