Are you trying to be normal or different?

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I'm trying to be different. I want to be part of an Aspie secret society. NTs are so sleepy and drugged and brainwashed and bored and boring and have dull, empty, SLOW-AS-MOLASSES lives. Life moves so slow in NT society; it's no f*****g wonder so many turn to drugs. If you think or move too fast for it, perish forbid! Then you don't fit in!


Are you a normal person with a disability, or a wierd person without a disability?

I'm Daniel.

I'd NEVER like to be like others. Anyway, even if for some mysterious reasons I'd take an attempt to behave like normal people and derive pleasure from the same things what normal people, I'd start to stick like a sore thumb in a short time despite my efforts. I always try to say something controversial when I'm among people

I used to always try to be the same as everybody else. When I discovered this site, I discovered the need to finally accept who I was and have found it better to be myself, uneque. I can fit in, but just in my own way.

I can't really agree with that for all NTs, they do really well in group situations and I am nearly always the slowest at getting the joke or something. A couple of my NT friends or I should probably say acquaintances are both very clever and lead very full and interesting lives. They have good jobs and the man is very brainy, not at all slow.

So I don't think I would like to live in just an Aspie Society, though I avoid NT groups these days unless its in a seminar situation or talk where we are learning something interesting. I don't choose to mix socially in purely NT groups because I have little to say about diets and the kinds of things they seem to talk about a lot.

I am not trying to be normal now, the cost was too high.

I just be myself. I'm not trying to be normal or different.

If one is Aspie, and one is being themselves - in society terms one is being different. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I used to try to be "normal". It nearly killed me. That's why I don't do it.

I am myself when I'm alone, when I'm among people I try to behave as neurotypically as possible. I live two lives. Not because I like it, but because I don't want any trouble.

People who are different will be punished, I learnt that as a kid. There are few exceptions to that rule.

Call me a traitor if you like.

People who are different shouldn't be punished, Dreamer. That's a human rights abuse.

Wouldn't dream of it. What do you suppose we older Aspies did - before anyone knew there was such a thing as Asperger Syndrome? We did our best to fit in. Sometimes without too much hassle; sometimes at great cost to our own health and happiness.

Fortunately for us all, neurotypicality, like the autism spectrum itself, encompasses a wide range of intelligences and attitudes. It would be wrong to see neurotypicality as some kind of monolith. There's just as much variety with them as there is with us. Can't find one you like? Keep on looking.

I'm married to one. It ain't perfect. But then again, is anything ever perfect?

I'm not trying to be anything.

i've tried my whole life to be normal and fit in...never have i looked at myself as being different...i've always thought that everyone has problems and why are mine different than anybody elses. When i meet someone i try to be a joker and make them laugh but when they start to get to know me i get comfertable with them being around and become this a**hole thinking its funny when its really annoying.

I don't try to be anything but myself. And I'm different, so I guess you'd say I'm trying to be different.

I have always understood bullying as an informal sort of punishment for being different.

Im tryin 2 b meself why b somebody else u don't learn anythin 4rm there.

Not all neurotypical people can be defined in the same manner, nor can all autistics or aspies.

I tried being a normal person. I realized I was not typical. Eventually I accepted it. Then I relished being different. Now I just try to be myself, and let things fall where they may without placing undue expectations on myself in terms of fitting in somewhere.