EvilKimEvil wrote:
If there are advantages to this type of censorship, I suspect it is situational. In some situations, it may do more harm than good. Examples:
1) A child is prohibited from learning anything about sex until she is 16. Throughout her childhood, she is sexually abused. She is deeply traumatized by these experiences but because of her lack of knowledge, she does not know that it is considered wrong and that she has the right to report the abuser and ask for help.
2) A child who has been protected from depictions of violence and information about violence is beaten by a relative or babysitter. Since he doesn't know anything about violence, he doesn't know how to explain the situation to another adult. He assumes he must deserve it, or he over-estimates the abuser's ability to retaliate and remains silent out of fear.
3) A child who has been protected from curse words is constantly called vulgar names by the other kids at school. She doesn't know what the words mean so she doesn't know how to respond or what to do about it.
These forms of "protection" can render kids powerless to defend themselves. Believe it or not, some parents who exercise these forms of censorship are unable to control their own violent impulses. Then the child is subjected to violence only within the family. You can imagine the consequences. I know that this happens because I am familiar with one such family.
Powerless, thank you. The right word, I think.
Like you said though, situational. Most parents I see who exercise censorship with their children do it in an unhealthy way. Either completely sheltering all together as you suggested, or teaching the child only or mostly bad things about certain subjects. That cursing is wrong. That violence is wrong. That such and such and such kind of sex in such and such and such kind of instance is wrong. So either the child is too little informed about life to deal with it in a way that allows them to survive best, or they're too
afraid to act on it. Like
knowing what violence is, but being too scared to defend yourself when someone walks up and slaps you in the face. Because that's life. People get slapped in the face. Mom won't always be there to tell that person that "violence is wrong". But she'll still be there to yell at you when she finds out you hit back -.-
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