Has this happened to anyone else?

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I've been trying to meet people ever since I moved to CT six months ago, with no success. I try online dating sites, I either never get a response or get a response, but nothing further happens. I try finding meetup groups or looking around to see what's going on, and realize I'm the only one there that's under 30. I can't go to bars because the noise makes it impossible for me to actually talk to anyone. Right now I feel completely burned out from trying, don't see any reason to think that anything I try will ever work out, but the loneliness is killing me. How do I get myself out of this? And where should I look when I do?

"Has this happened to anyone else?"

Yes, exactly, in the State of CT 35 years ago.

When I graduated College, my 1st carreer opportunity was in Norwalk CT. Wow, I was isolated. Looking back, I believe that some of my lonelyness was in contrast to the easy going social scene of college life. But, it's also true that CT is a very family oriented place (I still live in CT). My 1st 2 yrs in CT were excruciatingly lonely. I hung in and worked long hard hours building my career.

My 2nd year, at work, I met a man who held a weekly gathering of artists at his sign painting business where we chipped in for a life model for sketching and we would go out for dinner afterward. That was the start of something of a social life for me. But in the mean time I floundered.

I wish you the best, Mark. I love this place and will kiss it's earth in tears if I ever part from it, but truth be told, though I now have friends, I've learned to be happy living alone here.

2 years is too damn long for me. I'd snap if I had to last that long in this situation. I've already suffered meltdowns at work due to the stress of it.