Do you ever feel like a visitor or guest in your own home?

Post Reply New Topic

I had been going to my grandparents' house since I was born but 8 years later I still felt like I had to ask for something to eat or drink and my father always asked why I didn't get it myself, and until I was 5 or 6 at my own home where I lived with my mother (I had lived with her since I was born) I asked her for permission to use the bathroom. For a few years I also waited for my father to suggest it before taking a shower at his place. I just felt like it would be somehow rude or seem like I was taking advantage of them or their facilities or food or whatever to just act like I actually lived there.

Yeah, the sense of not belonging is always there and I'm comfortable with that, I know I have good feelings toward them even if these feelings are more on a rational level than on a pure-feeling level. I think the feeling of disconnection will always be there, with everyone, but I don't see this as a bad thing, on the contrary this feeling is a (big) part of my identity, the idea of completely connecting with another people sounds unnatural to me.
The funny thing is that everyone says it's impossible to really read and understand me while, thanks to my degree in Psychology, I completely understand them, at least from a rational viewpoint

Yes, I always feel like I'm the odd-one-out at home. I just feel as if I'm in someone else's house and that I'm an intrusive burden. I never get the feeling my family want me there.

Definitely.
Am feel like this is not home here [it's a large sized res. home] ,it's because am was told am going to be on the move again as they cant cope with am here,even though wont get a new place for a while,just knowing that am going to move is making it impossible to feel this is home,to settle.

My parents get the same feeling.

I arrange things the way i want them and fix noises and such on tvs. and they constantly yell at me saying "Its our house and we keep it the way we want, talk about feeling like a visitor in my own home"

I put up with it though, i have my own room that i can arrange lol

I can really relate to that. How can a place be "home" if you know you're going to leave? It's not even about feeling at "home", it's just about being able to sit comfortably.

It reminds me of how I can't really settle the entire weekend if I have homework to do - until the homework gets done something just won't rest and until I'm settled somewhere permanently I can’t settle at all.

I can't say that I feel a guest at my own home...but I do at other peoples houses that I have known for a long time, such as grandmothers house.
I've been going there every Sunday evening for dinner since I was born...my grandmother says that she doesn't consider me a guest, but family. But I can't help to be feeling "out of place" and wrong being there.

I felt that way about the parental unit's house after I moved out. Home was where I lived...