I got told today

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...by a Doctor, that married people can't have AS because by definition AS means you can't build a meaningful relationship with another person to the extent of marriage. That he doesn't *think* I have AS because i'm married. Even though my marriage broke down officially today.

This Doctor has 3 Asperger's patients.

I wasn't going to him for a diagnosis or anything to do with AS, but my wife mentioned to him I thought I might have AS, and he asked to see me.

Now he thinks I might have a personality disorder with low levels of Serotonin. Though after I actually told him how I felt and what i have been through he changed his mind to "I think you'll need to see a psychiatrist to confirm whether you have Asperger Syndrome or if its a personality Disorder. But for now, here's some Celapram (for Serontonin). Take it for two days and come back to me and we'll go from there".

Is that a reasonable thing to presume?

was this a GE, a psychiatrist, a psychologist or some other type of doc?

cause um if this was the extent of his Dx and he just gave you a Rx then I personally wouldn't go back to him.

And about the married people and AS. It is a fallacy. Two AS people could be perfectly happy together because they understand each other. An NT and an AS person could be happy, it just takes understanding and a willingness to work on communication between the two.

If you decide to go to a doc for a Dx, my suggestion would be to go to a psychologist, not a psychiatrist.

Has the doctor ever heard of Jerry Newport? He is a posterboy for people with AS and he was married for 2 1/2 years.

That is totally off base. Of course we can have an maintain relationships. As if only one type of personality ever marry or date each other, and the other types are just cut out of the gene pool. If that were true then AS as well as other PDD-NOS would also be bred out of the gene pool. But that obviously isn't the case. His assumption is unfair stereotypying. Its also like saying fat people never marry because no one will want them and they will enjoy food more than people. But that isn't true. This guy has no real idea what he is talking about.

Thats a lie. Many aspies are married.

and You CAN build a meaningful relationship to the extent of marriage. What a Quack!

Time your 'Doctor' caught up with what constitutes a more current diagnosis of Aspergers or at least find someone competent to refer you to.

Negative. We can't build small-time relationships or friendships-that-aren't-really-friendships, but marriage is probably one of the strongest relationships you can have, so the guy doesn't know s**t.

Oh Boy! How ignorant is he? My daughter is happily married to an aspie. There were problems that nearly broke the marriage, but when her sons were identified she understood what made her handsome husband tick.

Now they are very happy and their marriage will endure.

I often think about getting into an arranged marriage.

Your doctor is an idiot!

Well, statistically, most of those with AS won't get married, but most doesn't equate to all. Many may form relationships, and then marry, but this "many" is in the minority compared to the "most", which is the majority.

No one with autistic disorder gets married (outliers don't count).

The "experts" tend to think that adults with "mild" Asperger's, or aspects of autism pass on the genes responsible, i.e., it doesn't affect them as negatively as their children, and they won't be able to receive a diagnosis because it's not an impairment as such (they can function in society like anyone else).

Ya thats a big load of BS.

My DR told me (and I dont know how much of my past he does or does not know) but anyways he told me that I could not have AS because I work in a very fast paced environment, at a very large warehouse. heh.

The doctor is so full of it. He doesn't know jack s**t about AS. He needs to keep reading about it and see that aspies do marry and have kids.

Luckily my shrink knows that is bull too. Having a job, being married, having a partner, etc. doesn't make you un AS.

I`m married and a `diagnosed` Aspie.

Females DON'T COUNT! Some men might even find some AS quirks endearing! Many women DON'T. If you look at the AS people that are married, probably over 90% are WOMEN! If you look at females that were in a sexual relationship, almost 100% of all AS females that desired it were in one.

my friends dad has AS and is also married, not to mention a scientist.