Emotionless?

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Yeah, I have seen a lot of posts on WP about people getting overly angry, sad, ect, but I seem to have the opposite problem. I have almost no emotions at all. My teachers are always saying "lighten up" and "don't be so serious" and similar stuff. I never really get mad (easily annoyed, but never out-of-control angry), I do not laugh often when other people say something they find funny, I do not cry unless I am in physical pain, I do not get excited over something usually, I do not have mood swings (I don't even really have moods!). Everyone always thinks I am depressed since I do not smile often, though I am just neutral. My teachers often try to make me laugh, then it is awkward when they wait for me to laugh. I have gotten pretty good at pretending something is funny, though sometimes I am delayed in laughing. Everybody that knows I do not have strong emotions feels sorry for me, although I like being this way. I find emotions to be distracting, a waste of time that could be better spent elsewhere. I can concentrate better without emotions, I can think faster, ect. Anyone else like this?

Emotion for me really depends on the situation. Mostly I'm emotionless, and try not to make a big deal out of things, although there are some times when my parents can really rub me the wrong way.

Yep.

Whenever I do get upset over anything, I find myself detaching from any emotions. I don't cry or react outwardly like other ppl do. Rather, I just write it down.

I would not say neutral. I would say calm. And that's great. There are so many situations where calm people are needed.
I remember when people would ask me if I was happy (about my life) and I could not think what to answer because I'm usually without a mood, or rather, calm, and where I wanted to be. Now I know the answer is yes. I can't usually sustain the feeling of "happiness" for more than 20 minutes or so before returning to calm. I did spend two weeks exhilarated and happy in Rwanda a month and a half ago, and knew I would crash when I got home. Sure enough, I did not get sad, but I did get so weary I needed to lie abed for a few days to recover.

I relate to most of what you're saying(although I'm a very emotional person, and in some situations I will show it uncontrollably, but I'm usually consideered 'cold' or 'robotic' by others because most of the time I suppose I don't show anything). People always think I'm sad or depressed when I'm not(perhaps it's because I look downward toward the ground frequently for many reasons and tend to have a flat facial expression)...

I don't think emotions are distracting(at least not excessively so) or a waste of time, but people are frequently attributing emotional states to me that I don't have, and it gets annoying.