Opinions Wanted in RE: AS acceptance

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I'm getting the general impression that the younger a person is with Aspergers, the more s/he thinks the grass is greener on the other side of the neurological world. It seems to me that the older an aspie is, the more s/he can put things into proper perspective. That would explain (to me) the trend of greater acceptance as being an aspie when older than if one is younger.

What's everyone else's thoughts on this? Just curious . . .

I unfortunately live with a family that doesn't accept me for being autistic at all, and I'm unfortunately stuck with them until I get my Bachelor's Degree, relearn how to drive, get a job, and so forth...

I felt that I was happier when I was a child since I was a lot more carefree and oblivious to everything going on in the world, and feel more miserable today since I'm aware of current events, which can very much depress me, given all the hatred, anger, intolerance, and so forth, in the world...

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You may very well have a great point.

Too many NTs are like http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cliff_Clavin and can exagerate and lie enough to make you feel like the dumbest in the room even when you are the smartest by far.

I have OFTEN found that those that have ridiculed me for one thing were deficient in other areas, or even the area I was ridiculed in!

OH WELL! There IS a country that seemed very behind in many areas. People kind of laughed at stuff made there. They have a problem with sexual pronouns. What country is it? CHINA! The stuff has gotten better, the sexual pronouns was because they didn't have the concept in Chinese. Today, some rumors claim them to be almost as superior as they were once thought inferior.

Anyway, it is interesting that there ARE some parallels between chinese and whites and AS and NT.

I tend to agree with DukeGallison, also..

As a child we do not know or understand
Growing up it can be terrifying and confusing
In old age acceptance and exclusion...

But you have got me thinking as we all know there is generally a lack of services for adults, and yes we do change, adapt - but the thing that concerns me is that certain factors as we get older seem to worsen, we can become more set in our ways and withdraw from society to cope, I have noticed as get older sensory issues and other things I am less tolerable to than when younger, our needs seems to change and the condition in old age has not really been looked into or considered enough in my opinion....

At 49, with a Dx less than a year old, I find I am releived to find out why I am the way I am. I am also accepting, because I have tried for years (48 1/2) to "fit in." That method has failed, and I now know why.

Mark

The older I get, the more I am willing to, accept the fact that I have AS. When I was younger, I would consciously attempt to be like everyone else, not knowing that, I really was different.

Now, I accept the fact that I have AS, and don't try to fight it. My life is much smoother because of this. Sure, I still get anxious, and depressed(frequently), but, my social phobia is constantly improving because, I just don't care if I fit in or not. I've decided to work with, rather than against, my AS.

My life might be far from 'ideal', but, I know who I am, and can start to focus on what I want. I now realize that, self-acceptance, was what I really needed all along.

It's hard to be accepted by others, if you don't accept yourself first.

I'm not sure if it's simply an age thing, but I have became more accepting of my AS since I was first diagnosed many years ago. It's good to remember that your personality is your version of AS, not the AS version of you. It helps to get over that 'my personality is taken over by AS' feeling that made me deny my AS as a child.

I was a total mess in childhood, if I'd been able to be cured, I'd have wanted it, because I just wanted at any cost not to be hated and picked on, and because I hated how hard things were for me all the time that were easy for other people.

I've gotten more accepting as I've gotten older.

I don't think it has to be that way, it's just the environment I was in, and the sort of person I was, combined into a lot of self-hatred, and inability to see myself as a real person the way I was. I only recently have been able to more fully understand that I'm a person, and that I deserve to be treated like a person.

I seem to have removed the veil of shame. I don't feel as anxious as I did before. Granted, I still feel very uncomfortable at certain times, and I tend to rock in public (something I don't recall doing before) but I am far more comfortable and accepting of my quirks than I was before when I came across as normal but with anachronistic interests and tastes.

My grandson's, aged 8 and 9, are proud of their asergers. The eldest shrugged his shoulders and said, when diagnosed, "I always knew there was something wrong with me."

Knock off that noise, and get off of my lawn!

I love being a senior citizen, noise is known to annoy them, dumb people, and they are allowed to beat people with a cane and get away with it.

You can call me Mister, and you have five seconds to make sense or start running.

I have come to terms with it.

Well hey, I can't exactly turn NT. But I can learn all I can about them, so I know how to get along well. Like learnig how to fit into another culture, like an exchange student. Only you don't have to learn a second language, you just have to learn the way they do things. So that's what I do, and it works. Proper cultural responses and customs, and all that.

I respect the NT's distinct culture.