Some advice please

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Hello. I'm a new user here. I've been browsing for about a month now after learning about it's existence. The thing is, I'm concerned about whether or not I have AS. I've been sailing through life just thinking that I'm fairly unique in my ways, but a chance leaflet in one of university lectures has got me thinking.

So I've been researching AS since ohhh, December now, from online articles, discussions and a few books. I recently obtained a copy of Tony Attwoods book on AS to help me further my understanding.

Now, I display the following qualities:

-black/white moral code. There is no grey area for me
-a tic in the form of hand flapping when excited
-inability to empathise with other's positive/negative experiences properly
-Unable to maintain eye contact with people, only glancing occasionally
-A desire to be sociable, yet at the same time maintaining my loner lifestyle.
-An especially restrictive diet
-unable to gauge other people's rhetoric methods. e.g if someone is being sarcastic or genuine (unless they make it obvious).
- In conversation, I constantly bring it back to me and my experience or opinion.
-A semi-restricted field of interests.
-tendancy to be devil's advocate, push a point to pedantry etc. Refusal to accept I'm wrong.
-Elevated language use when it isn't necessary
- physical contact makes me uncomfortable (i dont know how to react i feel)
-almost constantly anxious or paranoid (e.g. i hate crowded places, even buses i wonder if everyone is looking at me)

These are what spring to mind. With that in mind, do you folks feel that this would warrant going for a diagnosis or are these signs of some other issue? Now that I am in university I am really struggling not only because of the effect these things are having on my social experience but also the work load since I haven't sought help or advice from anyone about the course, nor spoke to my parents about my problems at uni.

I look forward to some advice that can soothe my confusion

Waffle,
it does sound like could be on the spectrum-have always been that way?

As for diagnosis',it's only worth getting if it's going to be used,eg,if need accomodations,support,residential or group home placement,a social worker,better understanding..
It sounds like it would be worth it as are struggling at uni-but parents will have to get involved eventually as they are the main people asked about own developmental history.

A lot of people get assessed for AS and get diagnosed with it,but then hate it afterwards as for them the benefits are not more than the risks, stereotypes and problems,it's accepting the label of disability.

I managed to get by (getting a diagnosis at university and all) without involving my parents at all. I'll never tell them.

I had some very good, detailed situation memories of childhood, and a pretty fair general knowledge of what I was like. I was also able to invent an excuse (helping a friend in Education with a project) for looking through my old school reports from Kindergarten through Grade 9, which let me learn a lot. I also asked them a couple of pressing questions (pretending that they had arisen from studying the old report cards).

I hate this kind of duplicity, but anything is better than having them know something else that they could use and abuse, or worse, ridicule and deny.

You sound a lot like me.

I'm definitely AS.

Welcome to the weird.

Sounds like you're on the Wrong Planet

Welcome home.

If it would make you feel better to get a proper Dx, go ahead and get it confirmed. But, so many misdiagnoses associated with AS...so, make sure you go to a doc who is experienced with AS to get your confirmation.

I think you already know, though.