Do you find it difficult to adjust to being around Aspies af

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ter being around NTs for so long?


Like, on this board or in real life when you meet more Aspies?


I'm having a hard time adjusting to the fact that I can tell people what I want to eat without being afraid of being called a spoiled brat, and not having to stop eating even if I'm still hungry. I'm also having a hard time adjusting to the fact that perfectly literal, innocent comments are not sarcasm. Like, if a NT said that, they would mean something sarcastic or malicious, or they would be annoyed at me, but Adverb swears that he does not know how what he said would sound sarcastic. (This has nothing to do with tone of voice. A lot of people are very casual about sarcasm.) I'm too used to eing around NT a**holes. I can't let down my guard and stop being defensive. I can, but it's so hard. When someone makes a certain totally innocuous comment, I might think it's sarcasm meant to tell me I'm a spoiled annoying brat or something. But then he's all serious ssaying he never intended it that way and he has NO idea what gave me that idea. I used to think, "How can he say that and NOT be being sarcastic?" But now I know and I feel so much better, but it's still so hard to adjust. When I thought he was being sarcastic and mean by making that comment I got defensive and mad at him, and then he thought I was being a b***h and being mean to him.

Not really, but then again I don't even associate with NT's in my area. I just try not to stay around them no longer than necessary.

I wish I had the experience of being around other aspies (other than on WrongPlanet - don't get me wrong, this place has been a revelation for me, in a good way). I know there are others nearby, and even on this board, but I have never met another in person (save one six-year-old who has not been diagnosed).

Like jeyraden, I have never had a relationship with an Aspie. I have only met one in person (a student assistant manager at a job I applied for). She was a co- interviewer but had no say in hiring me. She talked privately to me at one point in the interview about her Dx and that is how I found out. (I told her about my Aspie Dx).

Not exactly. My parents convinced me to leave behind my welfare check and go live with them in Vancouver and go to school. Living off my father. Eating one meal a day, and only a certain amount, of course, because my father only brought home so much. Sometimes I was sick of the food but mostly it was okay, until we started eating the same thing and it became sort of nauseating, and all the time I sdort of felt like throwing up. My father did like to brag about how he was skinny and didn't even get hungery, because he was at a very active job and sports kills the appetite.

...(American , anyhow .) , in fact , it's probably already started , anyhow , in most " contingous 48 " US locations .

I've never met (an admitted) one. Heck, I know more gays and lesbians than aspies (well, 0 is 0..

I'm kinda curious as to how it would go. I know of another aspie, but he's a kid (well, to me...old F*rt that I am.., and I've never seen him.

I love it! It's so refreshing to be myself, as it's so hard to be on impress mode 24/7!

That's the right attitude to have, just be yourself. I'm stay in an "If you don't like me, tough" mode