Have your parents taught you sexuality?

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When I was a kid, I would often question my parents about sexual issues, but those stupids would always lie to me and never tell the truth. I asked "Mommy, what's vagina?" and she always answered "I don't know" or "it is women's issue, you don't need to learn that". My stupid father too.

I remember one time when I asked that stupid what's ejaculation and she answered "that's when your wee-wee gets hard"! AAARRRGGGHHHH!! About vagina, she just needed to say "it's a hole that women have between legs"! Is that so goddamn hard??

I only learned that stuff because I used to read medical and health-related books. Little by little I began to understand how the whole sexual stuff works. But I'm SURE that, if I had never read those books, even today I won't know what's a damned vagina! My parents were too much overprotective to teach a damn thing like that and, as I grew up with no relatives near, I had no other people to turn to.

I was never taught about sexuality, by my parents. I had to learn that information, from medical books and journals.

GEE, THAT would have helped you? Sounds too simplistic for me. That is like saying a penis is a tube men pee out of.

One of my first books was on anatomy. I didn't have to ask. That is lucky, since I was never told. When I went to my pediatrician, as a little kid, I saw another book. It had nothing new to me, except one thing, it spoke about the clitoris. Gee I wish I knew that so few girls knew about it.

Gee, in junior high, my female "health teacher" acted like most girls were ignorant on more obvious things.

I was never taught that stuff by my parents either, but I never asked. I just sort of learned by myself, I guess. Really, learning that stuff from your parents is just weird.

It's not that big a deal, though. If you know now, what's the problem? Obviously it was awkward for them to talk about it. Meh.

Oh God, don't remind me. My parents never told me about sex, or 'the bits down there.' I had to guess how it worked until I found out, in a very distorted and inaccurate way, from my peers. It wasn't until PSE (Personal & Social Education) and Science lessons that I properly found out about the 'bare' facts. When I was about 13, my mum offered to answer any questions I had about sex, but by that time, I was so used to her not telling me anything about That Subject, it just felt wrong talking to her about it.

No, not really. My school's the one that really educated me about that.

My mother has always been very open to me when talking about sexuality issues. For example, when I was younger [about 7 years old] I asked how do people have sex. She explained it to me correctly.

Any other questions i've asked, shes always answered as honestly as she can. She told me from a young age that sex isn't something to be embarrassed about and everyone does it. I guess she didn't want me to be misinformed and i'm greatful for that.

My parents had a tape series called "Preparing for Adolescence". It covered everything from puberty to how that whole sex thing works. It was a godsend. I think i would have crapped myself if i had to hear it from them. ugggh. I got a new wardrobe for listening to the whole series. so the payoff was worth it. I am glad i heard that info too. I would have been absolutely clueless about sex had i not.

I asked my parents when I was about 4 where babies come from and they told me everything. They had a book written for children to show me what they were talking about but they also had other books that covered the subject that I found more interesting, such as "bodywatching" by desmond morris, if my memory serves me correctly.
I read the Kama Sutra whilst still in single figures and knew practically everything about sex and the many different forms of sexual activity before any of it was ever discussed formally at school.
The great irony in this wealth of knowledge I aquired whilst still very young is that i'm now in my mid 20's and have still not had a chance to put absolutely any of it into practice!

I just had to have "the talk" with my 11 year old son, because I knew that he would be kind of creeped out about the "sex talk" that's going to be discussed at school as part of the P.E. curriculum. He's very innocent, and I hate that I have to tell him about these things before I felt he was really ready. But, we were watching the news together, and the subject of rape came up, and he asked what the word "rape" meant -- so I felt that in order to discuss that, I had to talk about the whole thing.

"The talk" went amazingly well. I was surprised. I have two other kids (AS boy, 21, NT girl 17) and we didn't have "the talk" at all, I felt like they were going to catch on to these things through TV and peers. Frankly, I was uncomfortable with the idea of having to explain it all, along with having to explain conservative values. Both kids have turned out fine, and are comfortable with their values. This 11 year old is SO INNOCENT, it just felt kind of wrong to explain things to him so soon -- and this is where public school is a pain, in that it forces the issue. But I suppose it's a good thing for all the other hyper-mature kids who are 11, to really discuss what's going on in case their parents won't.

Kris

We never had "the talk" per se, but I was fortunate that I was able to discuss all matters objectively with my parents, including sex, without them going crazy.

I suppose I had The Talk, except I got it from a small, red book from my mother that she insisted on reading aloud when I, at aguess, was around eight. I'm afraid I was bored at the time, and didn't pay much attention to her; I don't remember her indications (if she had any) that it was important. I suppose I was lucky; I'm was/am hyperlexic, so I'd already read the mechanics of heterosexual sex, if not the specifics of STI's and the homo/bisexual/pansuexual side of things by that time. I consider myself lucky, many people get oodles of misinformation by listening to their parents instead of cross referencing literature for accuracy.

If I had children, I would be a bit awkward to talk to them about sex too, but I don't mean the entire thing. I mean just about the anatomy. It's harmless for parents to talk about anatomy of the opposite sex for a young child. That's not true for the hard stuff.

The problem is that I only learned it some months ago, when I had already turned 16. Quite late. If it had depended on them...

But that's not a problem for me, as I don't intend to have sex with anyone and never bother about gf.

Think this is one of the differences am had growing up as a LFAer.
Am didn't know there was a difference between male and female until in twenties,it's still something find difficult to understand now.
It's difficult to understand the differences,when can't understand humans on any level.
Sister had to explain asexuality to them for am [found out thats what am always was, in twenties] dad being the most understanding one,that was all kind of a reverse [eg,kids teaching parents sexuality].

I never really talked to my parents about sexuality. But im surprised yall had to read books just to find out what an vagina was? Didn't yall have Sex-Ed in the 6th grade? Well maybe yall didn't back in the day for yall that's older. But I had it growing up.

They gave me the talk when I was 11.