Did you have an older sibling who showed you the ropes?

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I just had this revelation...
My older sister helped me so much when it came to navigating social situations in primary school and secondary school (also when it came to love/romance/dating). In fact I also wouldn't have been as half as stylish or cool as I am (lol..i try anyway) if it wasn't for her! I believe her influence and guidance has helped me appear more normal. Does anyone else relate to this?

My older brother bore a grudge against me because I used to break his stuff when I was a tiny, autistic baby.

I had an older brother, whom I idolized. As a child, I mimicked lots of his behaviors, as he was quite successful socially.

I also had a younger sister. It’s funny, growing up, I attributed some of my “issues” to being a middle child.

I was the oldest of the three so I had to blaze my own trail.

My sister helped me out a lot, we fought like mad dogs and she hit me a lot and yelled at me but i think i wouldve been way worse off without her.

My brother was (and is) pretty bad at socializing, though he has gotten better. He just didn't care to learn, so I ended up learning everything from this girl who took me "under her wing", so to speak, when I was 8. If it wasn't for her and her mom basically beating social rules into me (they made me practice talking on the phone by refusing to talk to me unless I did it right...) I'm not sure where I'd be right now...

Yeah, my eldest sister is almost 10 years older than me, so she sorta "mothered" me----if it hadn't been for HER, I woulda had to wait 'til I was FORTY, probably, to get my ears pierced!! LOL

No, I'm an only child.

I don't have a sibling, but I do have a cousin that is four months older than me. We have always been together and he even lives in the same house with me now. He has always been helping me develop and has coached me a lot about being around others.

My nearest-older sister was not only of no help at all to me, but she actively made my life hell. She kind of hated me from the moment I was born -- people say that as a cliched phrase but in her case regarding me I think it was literally true.

I felt like an only child, which was eventually both a relief (when she came of an age where she was busy and just not in the house as much) and also deeply lonely.

I had a best friend who taught me about social skills. He got me into KOTOR which helped me understand turn taking in conversations and we used to sit and read comics in his lunch break at the café where he worked which helped me understand theory of mind better.

I was the older child. Apparently my brother and I were very close when we were young. He couldn't really speak as a young child and I acted as his interpreter.

Once he could speak he began to greatly irritate me. He was active but weird where as I have always been passive and withdrawn. He could not understand my need for silence and I could not understand his need to constantly talk about his special interests. We went through a period where I absolutely loathed his very existence, but I suspect many siblings do.

Now we live in different states and haven't seen each other in years. We've talked on the phone a few times and I occasionally remember to send birthday and Christmas cards but he is to busy with therapy, school, and a wife and 5 small children. Well, 4, the fifth is still baking.

I have an older sister, but we aren't very close. When we were younger we were very antagonistic towards each other. I wasn't diagnosed when I was a child so I assume I just seemed weird and standoffish and generally uninterested in the sibling bond. When I was young I kind of just shrugged our distance off as a whole brother/sister male/female thing, but as I got older I realized our lack of connection was more extreme than normal.