PhoenixKitten wrote:
Ok, analogy time: meltdowns are like someone wetting their pants because they are incontinent. Tantrums are like someone wetting their pants because they haven't been toilet trained. It may look the same on the outside, but it's not.
I think that NT's also have outbursts caused by stress. The difference is that Aspies experience stress in situations that wouldn't bother your average NT. I think I stick with what I said about anyone being able to have a meltdown, but that it's only really called a meltdown if it's severe and or frequent. It may look like the causes are different because an Aspie may meltdown over being touched, but it's still a case of an outburst caused by a stressful situation, it's just that NT's may be stressed by something like running late for work instead!
I love that analogy. I more look at the motivations, though, in all honesty- A "tantrum" to my mind is when someone wants to get their way by behaving badly. A meltdown is sheer reaction, and the main thing
I generally want when I'm having one is to just have the damn thing stop. I'd much rather approach all things logically and rationally if I could. I don't want to be known as someon who "gets her way" by "pitching fits."