Yelling

Post Reply New Topic

Do people ever accuse you of yelling when your not?

My boyfriend sometimes say i sound angry when im not at all. I tend to raise my voice a lot when i get excited about something. Maybe i sound angry too, i dont really know.

Yeah it's happened several times, although it's not a regular thing. I tend to raise subconsciously the volume of my voice when I get excited.

Yes, I know a guy who was kind enough to this point out. I try not to do this now, but if my concentration is taken up in some difficult problem, or my enthusiasm for something starts to run away, then it comes back a bit. I have a certain intensity that I enjoy when I experience it, but I know now that sometimes others are put off by it.

I have spent the last year away from socializing to gather my thoughts and write my PhD thesis. My outward behaviors were worst when all of my concentration was on constructing the lab equipment for my thesis work. I have also taken time to process years of experience and draw any lessons I can from it.

My enthusiasm for sharing the details of my work, and talking too loud, probably had something to do with not forming very close relationships with other people at the sailing club. Other people would have already arranged partners for using the boats when they arrive, and years after joining I would still have to hunt for a partner, usually one of the new members.

For whatever reason people are put off when you share too much about what you know, either because it scares them or because it makes them feel inadequate (?). I have known people in high places (deans!) that have had trouble understanding me, and it made me secretly wonder how that person got to be where he is without being able to understand my field of discussion. I now think that the success of some people depends on being smooth, looking good, and being skillful at concealing what they know so others aren't put off by it.

It's happened once or twice.

Yes - my father always used to tell me I was yelling. I wasn't; my voice was actually quite soft. But I was speaking so fast and with such intensity that he called it "yelling."
However, I also do sometimes yell without meaning to - as in, I raise my voice more than is necessary. I don't realize as I am doing it, or rarely, but as soon as it is pointed out I am suddenly acutely aware of it. I don't mean to yell, though; I just get so into it that my voice rises. Oddly, though, when I'm with someone who is as enthusiastic or interested as I am, I don't yell. Wonder why?

When I get excited my Mom looks harshly at me and tells me I'm yelling or that I'm being shrill. I tell her I'm not doing on purpose and that I'm sorry, but she says I do it on purpose.

Yeah, I have the SAME problem. 8-(

Nope... never had that issue.
My mom talks very loudly especially on the phone. It borderlines yelling and I either have to tell her to talk softer, or I just turn the phone volume down.

Nah i usually talk low and people have to tell me to say it again or speak louder.

I'd love to have more voice control. Recently I've been sounding overly angry which I don't appreciate at all, saying how much I abhor that emotion. I've been accused of it a lot by my mom, though I clearly haven't been.

I hardly ever yell, even when I'm angry. I get all steamed up and have trouble controlling the waver of my voice, but I don't raise the volume.

Z

I get accused of being screechy all the time. I tend to just get louder when I'm feeling stressed and I don't generally realise it. But I'm usually about half way to meltdown by the time this happens, so I don't really care at all. My husband always says that I'm getting screechy when I get stressed. He tells me don't yell at me all the time and I generally end up shouting back that I'm not yelling. Funny, huh?

I don't have any control over when it happens or how it happens, though. I just realise this and know that it's part of me.

YES!! ! My mom always complained about how loud I am when I was a kid, and my job coach seems to think I'm always "snapping" at her.