Do you tend not to one to get involved in arguments?

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My mom and a manager/employee were arguing and I said I didn't want to have anything to do with it and walked out of the store. Is this an AS thing or perhaps just me and do other people have this behavior?

(I just overheard my dad say That Pisses me off more than anything!!"


So what I didn't want to get involved!! It wouldn't solve anything!! !

I'm mighty tempted at times... I just don't like confrontation in general.

I don't care about petty arguements...but if it's something related to my obsessions, I'll get really, really deep into it...I usually force myself not to get started though, because I know I'll only end up incredibly upset (unless it's a friendly arguement).

I am almost obsessively non-confrontational. I will only confront someone if I strongly believe or know that I am 100% right. Even then, if they lie, I have to force myself to stand firm. Ironically, my job involves arresting customers and employees for theft and fraud in retail and I'm extremely good at it. Even though I hate the interrogation part of my job (it can be VERY confrontational if they don't confess) I make sure I have all the facts and will examine the evidence over and over before talking to them. If they continue to lie and I start to doubt myself, I will ask one of my NT investigators to read the person for me! Only one of them knows I have AS but the others just think I'm asking for a second opinion. In personal relationships I really have to be careful not to accept bad treatment because often, even if they have been rude or have done something to hurt me, I have a delayed response and don't "feel" it until later. Confrontation in the moment doesn't even enter my mind. One thing that helps me if to read "Chick books" . They help me to understand appropriate emotional responses to different situations and help me know I have the right to react. Hope this helps.

I only join in at times where its to do with my obssesions or about belief in god or gods, they make me laugh a lot

I try to avoid getting involved with arguments, especially between my family. I get shaky when I'm around that kind of environment.

I like to avoid arguments. I don't like getting involved in matters that are none of my business.

I don't like arguing, except when I'm right.

Seriously, I'm very non-confrontational. Since I'm crap at thinking on the spot, I nearly always lose arguments, and make myself seem like a complete idiot in the process. Unless I have a very strong opinion about something, I usually feel that getting into an argument isn't worth the hassle that it causes.

i'm not very confrontational.

I am very conflict-avoidant.

depends, if i feel that myself or someone i care about is in any kind of danger then i will get very aggressive. otherwise i just get sleepy

I've been known to get into arguments without realising at first where I'm going. When I think someone is in the wrong or is missing some vital insight (and I feel comfortable and not threatened by the other person), I feel strongly compelled to put my foot in without much thought of what I'm doing. It's something I've only been more aware of in the past year or so. The stronger the case I feel I have, the more I'll press it. If I feel like my case is weak, I'll be liable to stop.

There have been a few people who I think got a very bad first impression from me because my first conversation with them turned into an argument, and they took it more personally than I did. It's a shame because I wouldn't have challenged them at all if I didn't feel comfortable and impressed with them. But only a few, I think.

Sometimes I try to avoid arguments. I don't like to argue about religion or politics. I especially don't like arguing if it's getting no where. Why argue with someone if they are not going to change their mind. My first ex was always arguing with me for what I believed in or for what opinions I have and he wouldn't drop the topic until I agreed. Me trying to change the subject, he saw it as me running away from my problems. So I pretended to agree to shut him up. I even got tired of screaming at him to shut him up.
Usually I get involved in an argument when I want to express my views or my thoughts, opinions. I have also been accused of arguing too and I couldn't understand why. An aspie told me online lot of people don't like to be corrected and also when I was 20 I looked the word up online and it means to disagree, not agree. So that explained why I always got accused of arguing. It's impossible to not argue. At work I don't bother to correct my bosses when they falsely accuse me of something and sometimes I do because I don't want a bad reputation.
I also land in an argument when I am right and the other person isn't. I just tell the person to look it up to try and end it. If it's online, I will pull up the facts and show them the link. Sometimes I tell them to look it up if I am too busy to look it up myself to prove them wrong.

I avoid it or just laugh and chuckle.

I am extremely selective about what I will argue about. Arguing is stressful and exhausting, and I hold myself to high standards. I prefer to argue seldom and argue well. I don't like to argue about anything that I am not certain is worth arguing about.

I like to argue sometimes just to be an a**hole, but usually I wish no one speak loud or yell because of how unnecessary and annoying arguing usually. I'd say I blame AS for liking and hating arguing, but usually I hate it.