Are autistics mean?

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My mother says that if you took it personaly I was a very mean baby. I also have always had a fight streak, from as early as I can remember. I am also every easy to offend. People are always telling me not to take everything so personal. If someone so much as looks at me wrong, I am ready to kill. My neice and her little friend describe me as being "mean". Not to them but to others. My neice never has to worry about pedaphiles or anything because she knows if they so much as tap her I will beat them into a bloody pulp. Once at McDonalds were were talking about her school project. We were sitting at this table which was probably at least sic feet high. This elderly man sitting next to us, taps me on the shoulder and says, "Sit any hight you girls are gonna break your neck. If he would have touched my neice I would have gone balestic and probably sent him to the ER. I think I remember telling him, "Dude! Touch me again and I'm going to break yours!" I remember calling people names because they didn't like the same things I did or said something mean about what I liked. People would bump into me and I would kick them. Someone would say something stupid and I would hit them. Are Autistics normaly this mean?

I investigate a situation before going off. Sometimes a raised eyebrow and asking "What's going on here?" is sufficient. Normal or not, I don't know, but getting too mean can get you arrested.

A lack of a strong father can cause some people lacking self control.

Last edited by tailfins1959 on 15 May 2008, 2:07 pm, edited 3 times in total.

i think aspies in general are more sensitive people , i personnaly get sad and angry when smeone makes marks especially when he says lies

to be honest i don't like it .. being aspie means you are strange means also be ready for a bad treatment .. people's bad comment and etc
if you start listening to people you'll get sick


by the way .. i don't feel mean

some are and some arent and its also a matter of the expectations of the observer.

like with personalites outside of autism, it's hard to say what is 'normal'. personalities and temperments within autism are just as diverse as those outside.

'meaness' can be a defensive reaction to a person's world that they see as 'mean' which isnt really mean at all. just protective.

yes,being autistic is definitely no escape from nastiness.
there are lots of reasons for nastiness,sometimes it's meant exactly as it looks,some times it was innocent and wasnt meant the way it looked,and other times the autist may not have enough awareness or connection to realise what theyre doing is nasty.
sometimes,some autists are even nasty in an attempt to communicate,if they're not good at doing it.

this is an interesting suggestion and pretty implicative and could lead to misleading conclusions. It also lacks consideration.

I was never mean as a child. I was aggressive, and had a short fuse, but I've never intentionaly insulted or beaten up someone without a reason (except for once).

I would run away from home a lot, destroy things etc., but I didn't know that it offended people when I was younger.

Listen to Dr. Laura Schlessinger at www.kfi640.com . It's on right now. Her program details in more ways than you can imagine the effects of a weak or absent father.

My 8 yr old isn't mean. He can be aggressive, but he's not mean. I used to work at a daycare in a health club and some of the kids were frustrated with him and said he was being mean. After talking with them, they understood that he wasn't being mean on purpose. These kids had a very good understanding of differences with other kids and I really believe it's due to their parenting. They were both immediately understanding and more patient with my son. I talked to the mom about it later and she explained that they had a friend w/ what she termed a "developmental disorder" so they easily grasped my explanation of "his brain doesn't work quite the same way."

Personally, I am very blunt, and while highly sensitive to how others make me feel, I am highly insensitive to how the tone of my voice can affect others. My mind is often racing, so my speech is loud, fast, and agitated - this is often misinterpreted by NTs as anger or personal hostility. Asperger's Syndrome is not the only thing abnormal about my psychology, so your results may vary. Also, I have to actively concentrate on my body language when I'm around NTs, or they report that I look withdrawn or vacant a lot of time.

I'm not "mean" in the sense if intentional malice towards someone, though I can accidentally come across that way because I'm brutally honest. I'm usually extremely kind and forgiving unless I'm REALLY pissed off and/or about to have a meltdown.

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I was an affectionate little baby. :O)

I was a nosy little brat that was always getting into things I wasn't supposed to. My older sister like to give me a bad time about it, and she still calls be the little brat!

I hated any kind of violence and would only get mean( just with words, not physically), when someone was picking on a more vulnerable kid or animal. I didn't really care what other people said about me before I was 10-12, then it hurt my feelings but I never thought to attack the person, just avoid them. I think we can have different levels of sensitivities in physical or psychological things. If I ever felt like attacking someone, (though I never did it except for using words), it was because I was angry at their cruelty. I didn't do it because I enjoied hurting anyone...it was a self defense thing. Any I do not believe that someone has the right to tease or be cruel to someone and then just say..."You are being to sensitive" what right do they have to define my sensitivity based on their own..there's is the "perfect level" ? I also don't buy into the hole.."I was just kidding, you shouldn't take it personallly, don't you have a sense of humor" crap. I am a person, so I am going to take it personaly, I have a sense of humor it just doesn't include cruelty as being funny and if they want to act like a kid then maybe they should be the kind of kid I was and not attack people for amusement.


I do have a part in me that is very animal. It scares me a bit but I have never let it off the leash. I feel like in the right circumstances I could fight tooth and nail but I try very hard to avoid those situations and would only use it to survive. I wouldn't advise backing me into a corner because if I can't "flight", I will fight.

I'd not say, Autistic people are mean. Yes, I'll go on the record as saying, there have been times in the not far past where due to mis-communication I over-reacted and became upset yet, I'm sure this is not isolated with many autistic people therefore, with each and everyday constantly I strive to not let mis-cues get me down or the foolish pranks and prods of mean-spirited "Nt's" cause me to feel mad..Nope. always, I search for ways to deal with a world that is often alien to my being..

As an afterthought here, never feel as if your somehow in the wrong for being reponsive to others.. after all, if as human beings we did not respond at all then, we'd not being human in the most logical sense...
Does this create clarity?


ProfessorX

I'm mean, but that's because I'm tired. Tired of all the crap I've had to put up with for nearly two decades now.
Eventually, it get's to much, and you just don't even want to pretend to care.