She says I'm just like everyone else

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Hey everyone I pretty recently joined this forum since I think I'm an aspie and needed to talk to other.
I've felt very much at home and kinda get this feeling that ''I'm the same'' as the people I've written mails with and such, I've never really felt that before.

Here's my introduction post http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt63091.html

I've talked to the school shrink and she keeps on telling me that everything is normal.
''Well everyone does that''.
I think she just knows too little about Aspergers but at the same time I keep on wondering if she's right and I'm just going crazy.
She still gave me the number to a real psychologist that I could talk to and weeks have passed and I am too afraid to call.
I'm scared that they will think I am crazy or that I'm just making it all up, but why would I?
I don't have the support of anybody.

''I just want to find my home''.

Thanks to everyone who read this.

Im in the process of figuring out if i have AS or not. I see a therapist once a week, and have done so for 7 years. She has never really put any thought into any of the AS traits ive brought up ever, and will just say that "everyone is like that". Fine, but if you're like that all the time, with many things and it creates trouble for you in some way, something should be done.

I went to my doctor and he has written a letter to a neuropsychologist who will be performing my assesment in 4 months time (loooong wait ) If i were you, and you are fairly certain that you have AS id make arrangements to figure it all out. I would see the psychologist, he/she certainly wont think you're crazy. They have probably seen a lot worse before, trust me. So just go ahead, its better to know than to worry about it!

Good luck

Thanks alot .
I will try to find courage.
It feels a bit easier knowing that someone is going through almost the same thing.

There are many people who struggle with it, ive seen many threads similar to yours here. I hope you get the help you need, and even if you dont have AS... You will atleast KNOW

Yes, that's how I feel too.
I'll manage whatever they'll say, I just want someone who knows more then me to say anything .

When I was getting my older son diagnosed, they school told me there is no way my son is on the autism spectrum - they had seen lots!

Of course he is now diagnosed, just as well I had not listened.. Aspergers as only been around since 1994 and really still far to few good professional out there, I do not listen to others much anymore, except aspies of course, as know they only know as much as they have experienced and quite often thats very little.

Remember your be your own best judge...

This in many ways exactly what is going on with me also.

My wife thinks there is nothing wrong with me, my GP said I couldn't have AS because I was married, my Psychologist thinks I only have anxiety and thinks people with AS are messed up.

I've contacted an AS specialist, however i'm scared to book an appointment because my wife is so against me pursing an AS diagnosis.

It definately is frustrating and very tolling.

Like looking into a mirror... the psych I've been working with, while all-too-willing to accept the self-diagnosis suggested in our initial conversation, is dismissive and unwilling to discuss the possibility. My doctor listens, but doesn't know enough to make any contribution. While some friends can clearly see the traits in me, others are oblivious and think I'm obsessing. The one doctor who specializes that I've been able to find charges such astronomical rates - to the tune of over $300/hr - that it is prohibitive to being able to pursue it reasonably. Yet for the first time... when I have a problem, I have somewhere I can look and get ideas on how to cope or adjust - and they actually apply. It's a relief, I just hope there is resolution ahead.


M.

Thank you all for sharing your experience and support!

I called someone at the psychologist office today and she sounded supportive but like everyone else she kinda said ''That doesn't sound like a disabilitiy at all'' but alot of the aspie ''traits'' is kinda normal but only .. how to explain it's normal but still above normal, am I right?

She gave me the number to another shrink tho and I'm so tired of talking to shrinks, they don't seem to know alot of syndomes and such, I'm losing hope.

I've been seeing a therapist on and off for years. I was diagnosed with Bipolar, Borderline Personality Disorder, OCD, Panic and Anxiety Disorder with Agoraphobia, and PTSD.

After my 4 year old dd got diagnosed with Asperger's, I started reading about it. Researching. And I was astonished at how little I knew about Autism in general. Suddenly I fit somewhere. I knew without a moments doubt that I was Aspie and so is my husband.

So I brought it up with my therapist, and she told me she doesn't know much about it in adults. That she knows how it is in children, but is really unsure how to proceed. She read from the DSM and asked me questions. It made me laugh because at that point, I knew more about Asperger's than she did obviously. Since she had to read from the book. :lol

Though she can diagnose Asperger's she isn't sure she knows enough so she's taking some sort of test by the in house psychiatrist so that she can learn to recognize Aspie or not? It was hard to understand what she meant. Basically she wants to dx me if she can. She has a referral for me to a neuropysh, but if she can dx me herself than we won't need me to go there.

The biggest problem I can see in all of this, is that we've grown. We've compensated. We've adapted the best we can, and some of us have adapted really well in some areas. And because of that, sometimes we look more able than we are. It appears to others we aren't having a problem, but really.. for instance.. for me. I have four kids. I had to work really hard at not looking like I'm confused or angry or frustrated out in public. I try super hard to not meltdown there. Because onlookers would be quick to call CPS for the woman thats seemingly flipping out for no reason, or waving her hands around in the air and yelling. And I don't want that. I'm a good mom. So I've compensated and I try to work around a lot of the issues I have. Because of that, sometimes in front of professionals I look like I have it all together.